@ Him coming out being the same as straight people talking about their favorite sexual positions. There's more to homophobia than flat out saying "I hate gay people" When you feel threatened and attacked, that people are being overbearing and shoving their sexuality down your throat for simply mentioning it, then you know you have a problem. The response this guy was given is probably the reason he felt it was important to him to bring it up in the first place.
Gays probably wouldn't be so "dramatic" about their sexuality if you didn't give them a reason to, i.e. acceptance.