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Originally posted by Ferst
Just don't be an ass and support him/her on their decision.  |
I know, I am being supportive, it's just that I know how easy it is to unintentionally say something offensive without even realizing it and she's in a really vulnerable state right now so I'm trying to tread very lightly.
Like I'm literally looking up "what not to say to a trans person" on Google right now but these articles aren't very helpful.
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Originally posted by posh
Sazare, I have a friend who is pre-op.  I don't know if he's even interested in an operation though.
Honestly, nothing really changed between us, I just continued treating him the way I did before he "came out".
I actually kind of love it because when we hang out because my fem side gets to come out and I can dress him up in super drag-esque clothes that my girlfriends would never touch.  When he had hormone replacement therapy he was really moody and I had to be careful what I said around him, but after a couple months he was pretty much back to his normal self.  |
Hm. Yeah, my friend apparently can't afford to have any of the surgeries right now and so I guess she doesn't want to transition until she can afford to. I mean I want to act caring and supportive but I feel like any question I ask might accidentally come out wrong or as probing.
Like, do trans people usually only switch pronouns and names after they transition? I know not all trans people get the surgeries, but like when do they usually change everything?
why am I not surprised?
