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'You are a leftover woman' Chinese parents shamed daughters
'You are a leftover woman': Chinese singletons reveal how their parents shame them if they don't marry by the age of 25 - calling them ugly and disrespectful
- Single women in China revealed the pressure to get married
- Parents are unhappy if their daughter isn't married by the age of 25
- But the women tell their parents they are happy single and are supported
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Unattached women in China have revealed the pressure they are under to find someone to marry in an emotional video.
The singletons told how they are considered 'leftover women' by their parents if they are not settled down by the age of 25 who have accused them of being 'picky' and 'free willed'.
In the four-minute clip for SK-11 skincare, the unnamed women refuse to get hitched just for the sake of it - and compared their parents' attitudes to 'selling' their own daughters.
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Single women in China reveal the pressure they are under to marry from their parents and compare it to 'selling' their daughters
Chinese women tell the camera what they've been told by family and their parents for still being unmarried
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The video opens with carefree images of the women in their childhood, from playfully doing the splits to smiling next to their mothers.
But captions flash up on screen on top of the pictures, revealing the hurtful comments the now grown-up women have received from their parents.
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One woman is called 'average looking' by her mother who blames her daughter for being 'sheng nu' or a leftover woman
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One said: 'You're not a kid anymore,' while ordering her to 'find someone to marry'. Another girl was told by her father 'I won't rest in peace until you're married'.
The montage also reveals how they have been called 'stubborn' and 'too picky' in the past.
In China, 'sheng nu' literally translates to 'leftover woman' and refers to women over 25 who aren't married yet, one of the interviewees reveals.
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Parents find it disrespectful if their daughters do not get married and the women explain it's most important to respect their parents
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Describing the country's traditional values, one woman explained: 'You become a subject that people talk about and you get so much social pressure.
'Chinese new year is the most stressful time because everyone will be asking you "How old are you?"
"Why are you not married? You're no longer young."'
Another woman added: 'People think in Chinese society an unmarried woman is incomplete. You feel like an outsider.'
Older parents of one of the women seems confused by his daughter's generation and their choices. He said: 'In our days matchmaking was simple. You get married.'
But now with many women single, parents want to help their children to find love.
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A woman's voiceover said: 'Personally I don't like this "Marriage Market" it's full of parents who post their son's and daughters profiles.'
Parents are seen poring over different photos and profiles and ask: 'What's his income, what's his job? Does he have a house, a car?'
'It's like you're selling your daughter,' the voice adds.
Another single woman explained: 'In Chinese culture, respecting your parents is the most important quality. And not getting married is like the biggest sign of disrespect.'
While the video also explored some awkward scenes between parents and their children.
A mother, sat next to her daughter, said: 'We always thought our daughter had a great personality. She's just average looking, not too pretty. That's why she's leftover.'
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A father tells his daughter not to be 'cruel' and to find a man in the four-minute clip while his wife looks on.
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SHANGHAI MARRIAGE MARKET
The purpose of the market, which runs rain or shine every Saturday and Sunday from noon to 5pm, is for Chinese parents to find a suitable partner for their child.
The event provides the perfect opportunity for parents to talk to other mums and dads and discover whether a potential match between their respective children could be on the cards.
Traditionally, parents arranged their children's marriages in China, but a right to choose your own spouse has long been established.
It is widely believed that most children do not give their parent’s permission to attend the event on their behalf.
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