Unknowingly or knowingly?

Crazy story: I met this guy and I really liked him and I wanted something to happen. After talking for a bit, we decided to meet up. We just hung out and met at a public place. We hung out more and more and afterwards we started to make out and do things. After one incident we stopped speaking to each other. But after a while we developed a friendship, and one day while I was at his house I found an HIV pamphlet at his house and jokingly asked if he had HIV and he said yes.

Obviously to say the least, I was pretty furious. He later explained it to me and told me that he knew I was "young" because I "didn't know anybody with HIV yet" and that he didn't tell me about it because he knew that he couldn't transmit it to me.

My take on that was that he was irresponsible and thought he could control his disease and took a risk with my life and possibly other people's lives as well. I think it's disgusting if people with HIV choose not to tell their partners that they are infected and decline giving them the option to choose if they want to continue with intercourse or not.

EDIT: This post sounds like an HIV coming out story. I didn't contract anything from him in the end. We didn't have even have sex. This was a year ago.

no

So you don't think you had any responsibility for your own health here? Who is going to care more about your health than you? Secondly you never even had sex so why was he the irresponsible party. Tbqh you sound uneducated about how you can catch HIV.

Yep a few years ago. He didn't tell me. Saw HIV meds in his bathroom. We had bb for a few seconds.
I quickly ran away and then texted him saying what I saw. I was panicking. He said he was undetectable.
I read and read articles about it and decided to let it be without going to hospital and asking for PEP.
Waited 6 weeks to get tested, luckily all was good.

yes, several times

No. I don't see the problem if you have safe sex.

Hell no lol

no and i wouldn't

No, we didn't have anal sex.

Wow. This is considered a crime in some US states. He should have told you.

But I'm glad you're okay.

OMG I would be stressed.

I think we all do a bit too much on HIV+ people though. Like sure use protection always, every participant is responsible for their own health. Educate yourselves on what's high risk and what's not. Blame everyone else all you like but it's your own health that you're trying to keep intact. HIV+ is hardly a death sentence, but lacking an immune system and a lifetime dependency on medication ain't fun for no one.

No.

The chances of catching HIV from someone WHO IS HIV+ when you have UN-protected sex with them is 1 in 2000.

If they are taking their medication, their HIV is generally undetectable and therefore not contractable.

If you're having protected sex with them, your chances of catching it from them is virtually zero.

KNOW THE FACTS - DON'T CONTRIBUTE TO THE STIGMA WHICH IS BASED ON UNEDUCATED FEAR!

You will of course get plenty on completely uneducated people who don't have two brain-cells to rub together responding to you in this thread. Ignore them.

And always use protection.

HIV can be tracked within 3 weeks of transmission. Secondly, did you ask him his status? Why were you barebacking in the first place with someone and you didn't even know their status? I guess now you are ready to blame the HIV guy for something that is your own fault.

Always use condom unless you & your couple get tested. Always.

OT: No and I wouldn't. Love myself too much, sorry.

This is why I have trust issues! Lol It's stupid how they keep it a secret

Yes and it was amazing.

Then how are you supposed to catch the HIV? If the HIV is a concern for you then you should've been getting information and that facts before putting your mouth on a stranger.

http://www.hivplusmag.com/treatment/...-25-year-study

In most cases, yes, but NOT always. Each person can be different. Something like 3% of cases of newly-contracted infections can take up to 6 months to be detectable.


Why are you making s**t up? He never mentioned anything about blame. Take your passive aggression elsewhere.