The author of the Tumblr post: I am a twenty-two year old assimilated transsexual woman and a gender-critical feminist.
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I believe that gay **** is misogynist for two central reasons. The first of these is that the smaller and frailer in appearance of the men always takes the submissive role during sex. I would argue that this is because being penetrated is associated with women and femaleness, as is physical weakness. The idea of a large, strong man being penetrated by a smaller, more delicate one is unimaginable, because this would constitute an overt rejection of the masculine gender role. The more physically powerful man would in essence be seen as lowering himself to the “women’s role,” which would elicit disgust in the viewer.
This brings me to the second aspect of misogyny that is present in gay ****, which I had never really considered before cisfiend pointed it out to me. (He is, sadly, no longer on Tumblr, but I wanted to credit him anyway.) There is absolutely no room for expressions of femininity in gay **** whatsoever. If you pay attention to the types of men who are featured, they nearly always conform very closely to the masculine gender role, and this is true even in the case of “twink” performers who are valued for their thin and youthful appearance. This is likely in part because consumers of gay **** are incredibly hostile towards men in **** who are perceived as being even slightly feminine. In addition to this, it is quite common for “tops” to use misogynist slurs against “bottoms” during sex, which links back to what I said earlier about the role of the receiver in anal sex being associated with women. The receptive partner is a “bitch” and a “****” because he has allowed himself to be lowered to a position associated with femaleness and thus with inferiority.
I hope that this made sense; it’s been a long day and an even longer week.
I mean yeah the heading is pretty ridiculous but if this person is talking about depictions in gay ****ography, what they say is true. Why does the bigger man top the smaller man? Why is sex not affectionate? It can be very stiff
she's right that gay men see the bottom as a negative thing because they associate it with being a women, being submissive
Only the insecure ones do. There's nothing wrong with being submissive. It can bring great pleasure. Being a women has nothing to do with gay sex anyhow.
she's right that gay men see the bottom as a negative thing because they associate it with being a women, being submissive
lol
Well, I'll let you that there's a lot of self hate in the gay community, but surely being the bottom isn't seen as a bad thing. If anythyng bottom guys are the large majority.
Girl bye there is literally every type of gay **** out there, just because the gifs on your timeline is nothing but twinks getting ****ed by hairy tops doesn't mean that's all there is
but she does have a point with the whole submissive = feminine = inferior problem
