My long time friends have recently completely ditched me because they've both got boyfriends now and, well, since the two of them live together, I guess they don't care about me anymore. We barely talk anymore and last time I tried to tell them it's wrong to do this they turned all hostile on me. They don't invite me places, they don't call or text, nothing.

Have you ever been ditched by friends, be it over a boyfriend or any other thing? How'd you react?

yeah im always the third wheel

Yes my friend I used to live with last year moved in with girls this year and now all she wants to do is hang out with them and smoke weed instead of hanging out with me

Yeah, for other friends. It's a bit funny because he never made the effort to do more.

sis that's nice, it's good you don't accept anything less
I might start following your cue seeing as these hauxs aren't worth my time

I've given up on maintaining too close of relationships with people after being majorly betrayed by my two best friends in 8th grade. I now only have two really, really reliable best friends who I would trust my life with, but I'm still not completely open to them (or anyone).

But being in college in a different city now I only have one person I would really consider a friend, and I've felt ditched by her this entire past week. I don't know if she's on her period or just sick of me but it's a really ****** feeling either way and it's been a really hard week having no one to talk to.

Not like that. However, but back when I was in college, I was at a party and a fight broke out followed by shooting. I was in the bathroom & they left me, got in the car and was about to leave me. It was a basement party and right outside the window in the bathroom was a alleyway. I had to climb through. Those bitches were already in the car gearing up to leave. I mean, I get it, but still.

All three of my best friends now live overseas. My boyfriend is pretty much my only friend for active and outdoorsy things.

Sis this from start to finish.
College, different town, all this sh**.
Situations like these are the ones that make a person guarded. Like fu

Yeah. When I was in high school I became friends with a guy one year my senior. The entire summer after my sophomore year and several months into my junior year we were inseparable: rode to school together, hung out after school nearly every day and on weekends, etc. Our personalities clicked uncannily well, and we attributed that to our effortless friendship. I also developed a strong crush on him.

He was part of the school theater production crew, and as November loomed closer he became busier and busier with preparing for a school play. Over a span of several weeks we saw each other infrequently, until eventually our only interaction was the morning ride to school, which I eventually declined in favor of riding the bus.

He ended up finding a new friend on the tech crew, and the two of them started doing everything together. In vain I tried to make plans and eventually grew too frustrated and decided to keep my distance.

The sad thing is that there was no "falling out"; we never fought. I just got ditched for someone else.

I don't like to spend a lot of time with someone unless I feel like the relationship has long-term potential, so to neglect other friends in favor of him for multiple months, only to be kicked aside for someone else, made me really bitter. It took a while to get over it.

I attribute my experience with him as one of the defining reasons for which my tendency to hold people at arm's length has developed. My only regret is that I never confronted him about it.

Yeah there was a group of 8 of us and 1 by 1 the girls started to have fall-outs with the group "leader" and I remained until the final 3, I thought I was the main girls best friend, would do anything for her all the time until she dropped out of uni moved back home (We were at different unis) and she started to change, slept around and wanted everything based around her all the time.. she came to visit me at uni, we had a fight, I apologised a month later and ever since never spoken to that girl or the last remaining girl since.. the other girl messaged me when the "leader" was on holiday saying we need to meet up as she misses me but couldn't because of her and I just realised whats the point anymore.

Me and a couple of the girls who were in the group early on speak now and then, dont dislike any of them its just we've all moved on with our lives.. 5 of us were in uni and now i'm the only one still in uni as they dropped out so we all have completely different friendship groups now.

IKR, and no one else understands it. It's not as easy as just "putting yourself out there" when genuine introversion is imprinted into your brain. My experience in 8th grade really changed me as a person and I'm never going to get over that. Even the people I am friends/acquaintances with I often feel on edge, like I'm being annoying or something. It doesn't help that the college I'm at is majorly sports and partying oriented, making me even less confident/outgoing.

yes
always

yes many times

Well my best friend has a boyfriend (who is also one of my friends I've known for a long time) and he's ALWAYS with her. Like, I can't even go out alone with her one time ugh!

Yes, a few times really. I was too giving and they took it for granted..(but I always care...and I miss the love we share lol this ain't a song). So when I say no they turn their backs on me but that is okay. I distanced myself from them naturally.

And I promised myself that next time, if someone wants to be in my life they need to give me their 100% because I will give them a 110% back, they have to earn it, because when it comes to relationships, I will give MY ALL to those who deserve(s) it.