Hmm

Same reason Blacks don't like being called the N word but call themselves N*gga
or
why gays hate the F word but say it themselves

Why do you guys call each other the f word as a term of endearment but get mad when people say it to y'all?

Boom.

that doesn't answer the question

It's just the way people use it. If someone calls me a bitch, I know they're saying it offensively but if one of my girls call me bitch, it's a playful, more positive use. Hard to explain. Me and my friends call each other bitches all the time but I will get mad if a guy calls me a bitch.

"Would you critique an English paper if you yourself did not speak English?"

Latifah is still so relevant today, she makes a great point in that song.

It's called double-standards and is spelled h-y-p-o-c-r-i-s-y.

it sort of does. Like Latinazza said, it depends on the context. 95% of the time when a woman is called a bitch [by a guy], it's meant to be derogatory. Same goes for a straight person calling a gay man the "f word" or a white person calling a black person the "n-word." Each minority has taken those negative words and turned it into terms of endearment for THEMSELVES. By the way, a woman calling a woman a bitch can be just as terrible.

This is true. It's all in the context. However, I wouldn't be comfortable if one of my good guy friends called me bitch in a non-offensive way. It just isn't the same

My feelings exactly


It's amazing how so many of her songs apply to a lot of issues at the present time (from "Ladies First" to "Just Another Day"). Love her.

1) not all women who say they dont like the term bitch call themselves a bad bitch.

2) maybe because bitch means female dog so it's basically dehumanizing????

3) no matter the context, when you call a woman a bitch, you're specifically referring to her sex/gender. If you call a woman a bitch because she's rude or hateful, you're basically saying "you're extra rude and hateful because you're a woman" and/or "because you're a woman, it's even worse when you're rude."

Which is so unnecessary. Just say she's rude and hateful

Guys normally use it as it's original meaning which is "female dog". They're using it in an attempt to hurt us. When we use the word on ourselves we're "taking it back" and twisting the power around and using it in a positive way after it's been used against us for so many decades

Because the intent behind the usage can and does vary depending on who is saying or using it. Historically, men have used the term to degrade or insult women, so a lot of the time women can be more sensitive when it's coming from a man as opposed to using it among other women as (like many other minority/underprivileged groups, it has been reclaimed and repurposed as an endearment or empowerment statement in some contexts). Bottom line, with any word that is used both as an insult and in a benign manner, intent is everything. That's why it's just better to allow underprivileged groups with reclaimed slurs just have those words. As a straight woman, I would never feel comfortable using homophobic slurs even though I've seen many gays refer to themselves and each other as such -- it's not my word to reclaim and it's not my place to question the usage. It doesn't kill me not being free to use certain words without social repercussions and knowing that if I say a certain word, it might be received differently if someone else uses the same word. Who you are and your background does play a role in the context and intent (or perceived context/intent) of what you say. That's just life.