Have your parents gotten divorced? How did you deal with it?

Im 19 and my parents are finally getting divorced after almost 30 years. Im actually happy about this, growing up with having parents who basically had no relationship but still stayed together has not been fun at all. But now there are money disputes and the whole lawyer mess and everything. Lately I've been so miserable because of how stressful it is to live in this environment, I just want it all to be over with and I feel like im going crazy.

Im the last kid left at home so im alone through this mess, I have no one to talk to so thats why im posting here for advice from other members who have been through similar situations.

Trying my best not to go insane

Mine did when I was 14 and honestly I didn't mind at all. It was the best for the both of them and our family. Everyone gets along better now. They're like friends which is far better than how it was 10 years ago.

This is ATRL, all of our parents are divorced. You'll be fine sis, just stay positive

My parents divorced when I was 5 & I'm now 22 so I unfortunately don't have any first person advice for you but just remember it will pass. Money disputes etc are never pleasant but you're not the only person in the world to go through family problems, and there is always someone somewhere having a worse time than you, so I hope that is some comfort to you.

I also don't know the situation with your parents but when I got older and asked about my parents divorce, my mum always said "it's better to be divorced but friendly rather than married and hating each other" so this may start a new chapter for your family. My parents are very good friends and have been since the divorce all those years ago, but I understand that may be a specific case and doesn't work for most people.

It will honestly get better, go see some friends and try to stay out the house just while all the lawyer and money mess is being sorted. Your parents will be stressed out by it too but once it's over, you will notice a huge difference

My parents divorced in 2006 when I was 14 years old and they didn't really separate on good terms and still don't talk to this day. Their relationship in which they used me to get back at each other really ****ed me up, but thankfully I don't live with either of them anymore.

I wish I could've told my younger self back then that those thing simply happen and that I would come out stronger. You simply must not blame yourself and realise that divorce is always way better option than a bad marriage.

My parents never married

It was hard to me 'cause I was a kid and I didn't understand a lot of things. Then I grew up and realized what was going on and then I didn't care about it since it was all said and done.

So you are a bastard?

Yes they have, and it was really sad for me really. It's been about 1,5 years but it's still a bit weird though I'm coming to terms with it. Luckily they never went really mad or angry at each other in front of us (me + little brother) at least, it happened really nicely and they're still good friends now. Your situation sounds worse though, I hope it works out! I don't really have any good advice as our situations seem to have been very different... My dad moved out pretty much right after they told us, and I guess that was good for everyone that they got some time away from each other

It's actually a perfect situation because you can manipulate both of them and get ALL you want, and I mean ALL you want

I was JUST about to say this. I used to get two separate birthday parties and they'd try to one-up each other. good times.

Let's not forget about Christmas, or when they start dating someone else and they's buy you stuff so to make sure you're extra-nice to their new boy/girlfriends

My parents got officially divorced two months ago. They have been living with each other for like 10 years knowing they will eventually get divorced but didn't because of me and my brothers (for whatever reason).

There was no dispute about money or anything, everything was all friendly. They really are happier and totally different people now so im glad everything worked out...they're still friends. My dad came over to my moms for dinner the other day They grew up as friends and said they would remain as friends.

It was stressful growing up in the household, the only thing that's annoying now is having to drive back and forth all the time

This boy is really going thru it and Yall over here playin games.

My parents got divorced when I was like 4-5 and it sucked because I know there is a reason to that separation but they won't tell me.
It sucked because I always felt (and still feel) like I have to choose betweetn my mother and my father. When I was at my mother's I wanted to go at my father's and vice versa. I have no memories of when they were together I don't even know how they met.
I never got over it but your situation is different, I think it's just a bad moment to pass it will be over soon once they get officially divorced. Maybe they will have a better relationship after.

My parents are married but I wouldn't mind if they decide to divorce. It's what good for them so i'm happy.