Can you guys give me advice on how to come out? I have already come out about my interest in men on Twitter, to another gay lol. But I want to do it without having to be afraid. I have many friends from my last school that are on my insta and then I am getting newer friends in my new school, and I know people from my old school will talk about it. Not sure how it will end up at my new one. Also, my dad does not know and it feels as if my mom forgot about me liking men.

So do you guys have any lovely advice that could be tremendous help!? I know many of you ATRL users are great at advice

you should just come out to your parents and live your life.

I won't lie to you and say it'll get better right away, because it does take some time for your loved ones to "accept" that you're gay, but trust me, once they do... you won't even worry about what other people think.

you'll get judged every day by people that don't know you, or maybe you won't... but there's nothing better than being out and being true to yourself.

My main piece of advice is, if there's any doubt that your family might not be supportive, wait until you're financially independent and living out of home to do it. Being a homeless teen can completely **** up the direction of your life.

Depends on who you are as a person though. Everyone's different. I let a few of my closest friends know and then it spread through the grape vine. Some gays want to come bursting out of the closet though, in some grand way that will get a lot of attention and potentially go viral on the internet, like an elaborate wedding proposal. I find that really vain. Which is a bit hypocritical coming from me. But still, don't be one of those gays. Just let it leak slowly and be really blasé about it, like it's not a big deal. After all, it isn't.

We need to more background information.

How old are you?

Do you live with your parents?

where tf do you live? etc?

**** like this matters.

I came out at a very young age (11) to rather homophobic parents, but I don't have any regrets. It made life a lot tougher as a teen, but as an adult, things have been awesome so far, and they really respect the man I've become.

It is EASIEST to come out when you don't depend on them, but it is best to deal with it as soon as possible for YOURSELF. It sucked growing up with everyone knowing, but it allowed me to do a lot things and break boundaries that I probably wouldn't have carrying such a massive weight.

Plus I was able to start dating guys really young, so when I became 18 or so I wasn't some late bloomer doing grindr hookups because I wanted to lose my virginity and so on.

Your mom told your dad, they're just not saying anything.

The more you think about it, the harder it will become.

Do you have an "interest in men", or are you full gay? We need more details. If you live near Mrmoniee I don't suggest it.

This is my approach usually (could work differently with different people), With social media/classmates/friends: Don't hide it but don't flaunt it either.

When conversation veers to relationship and sex, you could mention about your type of guys non nonchalantly as if it's already a common knowledge. Chances are, people around you usually have already suspected. And even if they don't, it won't be that surprising. LGBT exposure nowadays are pretty helping for coming out process to younger generation, even in an oppressed country like mine (sexual orientation wise). So when the topic arises, just reveal it in an oh-by-the-way manner, and less omg-girl-you-know-tf-what.

I have always believed that action determines reaction. If you act calmly, you'll receive reaction in kind and vice versa.

good luck sis.

(coming out to family is a wee bit harder. to be safe i'd come out after i make my own money if i were you. just to be safe)

I'm 16 and I Live in Texas. When I first told my dad I may have liked boys (13) it was becuase I was going through depression from trauma I had years ago. I got over that and he thinks that I don't like guys any more. My dad first busted out saying "so do you like guys?" And I was like "yeah" and that was it. He did not make a big deal about it what so ever. My mom didn't either. But my dad asked about a gf like months ago. My parents are the sweetest parents ever, but what really sucks is that if I let people know I like guys, my church will know right away. Things spread through out my school fast. Kids from my church go to my school, and they will most likely tell their parents about me. My dad has a close relationship with the pastor as far as church issues and stuff. So I'm stuck with that also.

I full on love men, but sometimes I like women too. It just depends on the day. I live in Texas by the way.

I feel you! Only my one best friend knows and I told her it was fine to tell her boyfriend lol. I thought he was gay lol. But anyways, you are only a year older than me so we share the issues. I feel bad that your mom is doing that to you. Maybe you should just tell your dad so that your mom don't have to blackmail you anymore. Jk lol, but I hope you find the courage to come out soon. You seem like such a sweet person!

Tell people slowly and as you're ready. And don't be one of those people who shove your sexuality down people's throat. I can't stand those people who go around announcing they're gay every 5 minutes :

This was so sweet. It gave me a lot of hope as did everyone else in this thread! I'm thinking about maybe summer time or spring. A time where I'm not in school.

i came out to my mom in 7th grade but she didn't accept it she kind of brushed it off and said it was just a phase or whatever, and i had to come out to her again in 9th grade. kind of maybe what youre dad is doing now? as long as he didnt lash out violently the first time which i would recommend not coming out. i think he and your mom have discussed it and are just coming to terms. My mom told me it was hard for her to accept only because she knew the life i would have to face living as part of the LGBT+ community.

My advice would be if you're going to come out, make sure its for you and not because you feel pressured to. Do it when you are 100% ready. also like what others have said make sure that when you do come out you'll be 100% safe in your living situation. try dropping little hints to them, talk about lgbt issues, l

As for friends/classmates, there will be some friends that support you fully and there are always going to be people in life who dont accept gay people, just ignore them and know that you are fully confident in yourself and they are just insecure in their own self. please don't let them bring you down and know you always have your LGBT+ brothers and sisters everywhere!

if you need to talk more about it you can always PM me!!

Don't worry about what they think, if they think it does matter if you're gay, then they are not worth you. It's not a big deal, if you will tell a few friends first, the rest will know someday.