Ok.

So I noticed that the reason why I lose a lot of potentially good friendships is due to the lack of effort in the other person. I know we all make mistakes and we're all human (yay we're similar), but I'm usually the one that puts 85-90% of all of my energy into every one of my friendships when my friends give about 20%.

It's ridiculous.

So who normally puts more effort into a relationship, you or the other person? (And this can be in any relationship, family, friends, romantic, business, etc.)

Me,

Even if I was in a relationship ship I'd feel like I'd put so much effort in it to make it work

Dude, you are basically describing MY LIFE. I have cut out some fake ass friendships this year because I'm SICK and TIRED of always expecting so much and putting in all the effort for so little reciprocal return. It's like I owe people friendship as opposed to it being a joint effort. That's why I've adopted a no bull**** policy from now on - the moment I suspect a friend is blowing me off, flaking or doesn't appreciate my friendship I drop them immediately. It saves me all the unncessary emotional attachment and at least I won't get let down again.

Other people usually. I'm a pretty sh*t person, I have too many issues

It varies but I'm usually the one putting in more effort

I have never been in a relationship but when I am friends with someone I am usually the one who makes the most effort.

50/50 because I refuse to do all the heavy lifting. I usually give people 2 chances for blowing me off. If you show remorse I won't hold it against you. But if you don't answer or avoid me, IMMEDIATE DROP.

Its also a person by person case because I'm closer to some friends more than others. Also I'm not dependent like where i need to talk to someone constantly. I can go months without seeing my friends but be good if everything is the same.

Me. I always put in so much effect, and get hardly anything back in return

I'm tired of being taken advantage of

SEE.

I knew I wasn't the only one who felt this way. I usually feel guilty after dropping someone but I guess it's for the best if they seem flaky. It's just then I have like no one to hang out with and then I go back to them.

Me.

I hope i don't sound rude, but it is ALWAYS me Like always, idk why...

Unfortunately me Dx
I worry too much about losing someone

They HAVE TO meet me halfway, otherwise I feel it's not worth it to keep the relationship

I don't think that's rude at all I feel the same way.

I mean sometimes other people make more effort and I tell 'em I appreciate it, but on a more consistent basis I'm always the one calling/texting people first or making plans to hang out. Just wish my friends put in at least half that effort, and then when I need advice/comfort they MAGICALLY vanish and are too busy for me. FOH that's not cool at all.

Like what?

But apparently part of maturing is learning your real friends from just acquaintances so I guess we'll see..

You need to drop those hoes immediately. Think about it. If you have to stop and even ask yourself the question 'is she/he a true, real friend' then 99% of the time they probably aren't. Friendship needs to come naturally and you shouldn't beg on your knees for it.

One hoe this year always used the 'I've been so busy' excuse whenever I wanted to hang out. Oh? So you have time to surf the web, talk to me on facebook and like countless photos (i can see your activity *****), go shopping regularly, but 3 hours of your life to see me in person is too much an ask in your hectic life? And she had the NERVE to regularly text me saying 'I miss you etc' and call me her 'best friend'. Guess who won't be at your 21st? Because the big scissors have just chopped your dusty ass outta my life.

Sorry I turned this into an essay rant, but ya'll get the message

The other

Yh I feel like I'm making more of an effort in friendships than other people I know are