I'm a very social person, I'll talk to almost anyone and everybody. Everyone is always so kind and nice to me but when people starting getting close to me. I clam up and I become anti social and I push them away because I'm afraid they won't like me.. If someone tries talking to me I say, oh I'll have a real conversation with them later, and I usually give one word responses to them and never talk to them again. I haven't made any new real friends to hangout with in a long time. I've never gone to any parties, never hung out for fun. I usually have to initiate everything, and I'm sick of it. I used to think, well maybe I'm just ugly and my stank face repels people. But I get checked out by girls irl . Further I have the SAME problem on social networking sites. . I don't know what to do.

Am I just boring and I don't connect with people because they have different and more plentiful experiences? Unapproachable?

I have the same problem. I'm great with making casual friends but when they try to push for something more I get really anxious and nervous and isolate myself from them and IDK why I guess I'm just afraid that I'm going to disappoint them and they'll think that I'm boring and regret making friends with me so I try to prevent that from happening all together? It's such a problem though. Sorry I don't have anything more to offer you

lol I suffer the same issue. but my problem is im just too lazy. I have active firends who want to hang out alllllll ALLLL the time and I just keep rejecting them. like i like to hang with them in school ( when i was in highschool) and now that im in my first year of uni I just lost contact with them because its too much of an effort organizing something. so now im sort of a loner because i havnt built any real friendship in uni. (usually ppl tend to stick with their highschool firends in uni) but now i regret it and i miss having thristy firends I need to go back in touch with them but im too lazy and nervous lol i feel like they will act a bit cold not because their mad but just because we havnt spoken in so long so it will be maybe a bit weird idk? :S they all stuck together im like the guy who chose to dissapear :/


but ya my advice is next time ANY ONE! offers you a time to hang out with them or w/e just do it. because thats how good friendships start. you just have to break the first few weeks/months of awkwardness and then it turns into super ocmfortable real frendships werre you wont need to think too much about hwat your saying or doing ect. you wont dissapoint them trust me

fff; I wish I had that problem. No one ever tries to be more than casual friends with me.

I'll try to. The guy I like wants to be friends with me/get to know me but I keep pushing him away and its just. I can't.
We're the same person.

Y'all should log off ATRL and the whole internet tbh, and start working on your social skills, getting out of your comfort zone.

I recommend everyone to read "how to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie and "the art of seduction" by Robert Greene (both bussiness classics).

I've always been very outgoing and social, but these books took me to a whole new other level.