How does one do it? Have you gone from shy to confident?

I've been shy my entire life to the point that I shake uncontrollably when in uncomfortable situations. I sweat, shake, my voice falters and sometimes I cry too. I don't get how I can get myself out of that. There was a point a couple years ago where I snapped out of it - tbh Rihanna helped me with that with her "***** you attitude". But this past 12 months I seem to have become the old me again.

It's weird because I can be so sociable at times...sometimes even the life of the party. But most of the time I'm just a mess.

You can get more confident by buying Born This Way on iTunes and by thinking of only what you want to be, not what others see you as.

I already have kween-like tendencies

I literally took some time thinking about myself. It sounds so basic but actually its the thing that helped me a lot, cause I was so shy back then as well. When you think about your life and yourself from perspection of "a 3rd person", you see that basically nothing really matters, when it comes to your feelings as long as you dont hurt/etc other people. Also, it depends mostly on the age, I believe. Now Im 20 and literally confident in everything I do and who I am. But if somebody had met me when I was like 15 years old, they would have probably thought of me as an extra shy guy.

i cant be shy anymore esp taking commerce.
The harsh reality they gave to me was, that shyness is a weakness that can only affect you at the end of the day - so i buckled up and started not to give a ****.

and ^^ Meril is right - like theres this annoying guy that everyone hates in my class (very arrogant) yet when he's in front of the class he gets shy - like bitch aint no body kier about your ass - get it done.

(sorry if that was crude)

I went from confident to extremely shy, now I'm getting my confidence back little by little.

I just always have the feeling someone is watching everything I do which makes me feel uncomfortable. It makes me not wanna do things because I think I'll screw up. Or I always think about what others will think of me, so I hate talking to someone incase they'd laugh or think I'm weird

meril pretty much nailed it. You're 1 of 7 billion, and it sounds weird, but remember there's people worse off than you.

I guess it's about accepting who you are, and realising that people will like and love you, no matter who you are too.

You're only affecting yourself, and no one else. Try not to fit into the norm because the reality is: no one is normal.

Don't try too hard. Just go with the flow. Hang out with people more. Talk a lot but watch your words

When you wake up in the morning take a look at yourself in the mirror and know that your reflection is sexy, unstoppable and fine as h ell

Worked for me tbh

I am still shy and not very confident but I've been getting better since I started doing fitness pole dancing. When you do something that you become good at, your self esteem goes up and you feel more confident in your own skin. Try out a lot of things to see what you really enjoy. Also, listen to uplifting music

one word : slay

I've had that confidence issue all my life in still do. 2 years ago, I consciously decided to overcome it and I have mostly succeeded. Still a work in progress.

Just remember that Earth is nothing but a PIXEL in the universe. The time between it's formation and up until it's destroyed will be comparable to a split second in relation to the eternalness of everything.

We are so insignificant and life is too short to worry about the little things. Just do whatever the **** makes you happy

This. I couldn't give a **** about what most people thought of me because I don't care about their opinions. Do whatever makes you happy

There is a difference between being shy and having a social phobia. You should see a therapist.

I had no self esteem before I was 15. I wanted to be invisible. I stopped constantly comparing myself to people, realized there are actually good things about my appearance and personality, and if there was anything about myself I didn't like that I could easily change then I changed it. I don't seek validation from other people. It has taken me seven years to get to this point though.

I was diagnosed with severe social anxiety in 2011 when I was 15.... and that was after dropping out of multiple schools because I couldn't handle that many people... I am now 18 and have dropped out of three colleges because I still couldn't deal and am basically just hiding out in my room waiting for something I know is not going to happen.

BUT... bit by bit I am gradually getting there... I go out with my friend a little bit more.. I talk to my two best friends over Skype (which I would never have done last year) and I am doing things to make myself feel better about me on the inside and on the outside.

The key is, is to boost yourself self confidence... the only problem is how to accomplish that..

This. I was gonna say you may suffer from some type of anxiety, more than just being shy.

Music doesn't do anything for me. I've been listening to Kesha, Katy Perry and Lady Gaga since 2008-9 and I'm still about as self-confident as a ****ing brick.

Well I think I do have a case of depression which doesn't help. I have not been to the doctor yet as...It's really stupid but I'm just scared of taking that step. My friends urge me to but I lie and say I'm fine. Anxiety is another thing I've thought of before. I don't know how to overcome that fear though knowing that if I don't get help I'll continue to be this joke I am today.

Some days I'm great. I'm perky and don't care about what people say. But most days I'm just - a weird mess.

Spend more time with yourself