Originally posted by Racism

This actually happened to me yesterday. I asked my longtime friend out and at first she was quite and I kinda got nervous . After a minute full of awkward silence she muttered some words I never want to hear again in my life.

"That's sweet. I would totally go out with you but I don't date minorities. A lot of them are ugly"

Disgusting, in every sense of the word tbh. I further asked her what she meant of THAT, and what that has to do with me. She further explained that I have dark skin (which btw is untrue my skin tone is similar to Rihanna) and it wasn't white enough to be attractive. She doesn't like my hair because it's too curly and she also hates guys with long hair so overall, she just kissed me on the cheek and walked away.


First of all, what she said to me was basically "you're not white". I mean, she wanted me to have white skin, straight hair and shorter since I'm a guy. She's evoking the type of "dream" guy that the media puts out and if a guy doesn't have those qualities, no matter how good he is he just isn't good enough. It's sad, and I had this problem before (which is why I always find it hard to date interracially). I had to learn to love myself because if I don't, no one else will

Originally posted by Media

Moving on, I have a few friends right now that are struggling with their weight, whether it's being overweight or underweight. And because of that they have low self esteem issues. One of my friends was just recently struggling with anorexia because she is a pageant beauty queen and you have to be a certain size to actually go far. Her "manager" gives her diet pills that her doctor doesn't recommend but she takes it to fit in some pretty inhumanely small dresses. Her hair is falling out from years of using sodium hydroxide (or perms I suppose) to make it straight (eurocentric qualities), her skin looks a bit blotchy from bleaching of the skin, and she recently developed some breast complications after a surgery she got (take a guess). If she had the love for herself she would have NEVER settled for the **** she has done to her body, it's sickening that people egged her on to do it as well. She has to constantly wear weaves in public because even her natural hair fails to grow back (she's not black either btw, she's latino) and if she didn't have some helpful friends she probably would've never seen her physician for her eating disorder. Again, love yourself because if you don't love yourself, no one else will.

Originally posted by Sexism

Actually I have a huge amount of friends so I can use another story from them. Another friend (sorry if I don't use names, I'd rather not) is one of my best friends. We are both on the tennis team together at my university and she is constantly a victim of sexism. She lives sort of a promiscuous life and has had at least 6 different partners in the past year (not all relationships though) and because of that, our teammates give her so much ****, it's not fair to her. She tells me that she enjoys sex and she was in many open relationships where that wasn't really a problem but she's probably heard every name in the book used against her, "*****", "sIut", "bitch", "devil", etc. What I don't understand is that there are a few guys on the team that have sex every week with someone knew but they get constant praise and even have competitions on who can have sex with the most people in the shortest amount of time. It's gross. I sometimes even wonder why the **** I am friends with some of the worst scum on earth but that's how it is. My friend questioned suicide more than once and I'm glad I helped her out. I told her that no matter what she does, she could not please everyone and instead of trying to get everyone on your side, worry about yourself. People will love her for who she is, not for who she has to be. Again, if you don't love yourself, no one else will