Think about this for a minute OK? Don't respond hastily.

Let's assume the person that is most precious to you is all of a sudden very ill or dead. I know it's bad for me to say this but.....what do you think will happen to you then?

Think carefully.

I said this question is because I had a friend I was close to (well, not a girlfriend....just a best friend) and he died in like 1999. I was so upset that I wanted to be left alone that day.

I'm sorry about the loss 8 years ago. It's very sad that happened, and although I have never lost a close friend, I can sympathize because I've had friends involved in car crashes, lying in a hospital room without learning any news whatsoever.

I don't know what I would do if I actually lost a friend forever... I guess I would just ask for peace, like you did, and make mourning the first thing on my priority list.

If the victim was someone I was very close to, and had known for awhile, I think I'd stop going out and having a great time for awhile. Like a way of trying not to take my life for granted, and appreciate how lucky I am to be alive.

i'd cry and cry and cry.

cry for a day and move on with my life.

I've had my fair share of car crashes. Also in 1999, I had that deadly car accident which left me with a broken tooth.

I can identify with losing someone very close to you.

My grandma was like a mother to me. My mom had me when she was 18, like 50 years ago. All my mom wanted to do was party, and of course, she left me with my grandma. Over the years, my grandma referred to me as her son. As I became a teenager, of course, I rebelled. I thought that her ways of thinking were old-fashioned. During this time, I got into a little trouble and had to be sent to a juvenile home. My grandma cried like a new born baby. It was sad. That last day that I was with her, she said something to me that haunts me to this very day. She said, "I tried to keep you out of trouble, but you didn't listen. Now you're getting sent away. This might be your last time seeing me." Of course, I heard her, but didn't really "hear her," you know?

Anyway, I got sent away. Days turned into weeks, which became months. I then received a phone call that grandma wasn't feeling well and they took her to the hospital for chest pains. I got worried. The hospital released her saying that she "pulled a muscle in her chest." I was relieved. I called her that night she returned from the hospital. She sounded different. I knew something wasn't right. She sounded lifeless. Her voice was weak. During this conversation, she was concerned about me, and how I was doing. She told me she loved me. All that night, I felt uneasy. I knew something wasn't right.

Days later I received a phone call saying that my grandma had a massive heart attack. The facility I was in allowed me to go see her. I was granted a three-day pass, but she was in such severe condition, she ended up staying in the hospital for a week. She finally came home, not in much better condition, but fair enough for me to return to my facility. A couple of days after that I received the phone call that I knew I was gonna get. My grandma passed. The only woman who really ever loved me was gone. My heart was never as broken as it was that day. To make matters worse, there was no one there to console me. Even worse, because I was gone so long during my 3 day weekend, I was not allowed to go to her funeral. "Remember her as she was," my counselor said. If I had the chance to do some things over again...I would. Months after that I dreamed about her. Each time it was things that I could do to save her life.

She died on May 23, 1996. I swear it seems like it was yesterday.

^ OMG that is so sad

i've lost 2 people in my life that were very close to me, and they both died a couple months apart, My friend who i went to high school with who was like a brother to me died of mitingitis disease last November. He was found dead in his apartment. Then in March of this year i got got a phone call saying that my female cousin was killed in a car crash. I was very close with her also & me & my family were heading down to New Jersey to see them but instead i ended packing a black suit. My vacation was ruined. But i was in utter shock when those two died.

I really don't know what will happen to me....

My mom has leukemia and I just can't live if she'll ever leave us soon...

Anyways, she's okay now! Though she still has maintenance... She has injection every 2 mos but its not as painful as before...

(You can pray for her still if you care... thanks then.. much love!)

I hope she keeps getting better.

much thanks!

i guess it would haunt me the rest of my life...i´ve never lost anyone really close to me

I have no idea. I haven't lost anyone close to me. The only major losses I've had in my life were my grandfather and one of my aunts but I was too young to remember. I seriously don't know how will I cope when my parents or siblings (or anyone close to me) pass away.

i just cross the bridge when i get there!!!!!!!!

It would be really sad, i really wouldn't like to be in that position but i guess we'll all go through stuff like that. We just have to be strong enough sometimes.