In a sense that how much of an ego can you have without your gf/bf being annoyed by it and breaking up with you or if a relationship is even possible in the first place with having no self-esteem at all.
I think ego and self-esteem are not the same thing. And you can't be in a relationship without having self-esteem at all, you have to care about yourself, first, in order to let other people get in, in this case, a girlfriend or a boyfriend.
I think ego and self-esteem are not the same thing. And you can't be in a relationship without having self-esteem at all, you have to care about yourself, first, in order to let other people get in, in this case, a girlfriend or a boyfriend.
This.
If you're broken, fix yourself first. It's the most important thing tbh in any part of your life. Single or not. Without it you just won't be happy.
I say its important to have a healthy and self aware dose of self esteem, for the reasons mentioned by above!
No one can honestly say they're attracted to uncomfortable, self-loathing -esque attributes in a person. If both parties in a relationship are happy and comfortable with themselves, they can focus more on the other person. I have friends who have left voids left unhealed and you can see the gaps in their relationship and they're somewhat secluded from eachother because of it.
1. Ego and self esteem is not the same thing. Where did you get that from?
2. Self esteem is everything. Your relationship will either be a disaster or it will eventually break up if you have low self esteem. You will constantly seek approval from your mate or other people.
For me, a person with high self esteem is NOT depended on other people actions(yes, even your boyfriend). They are humble, have their passion and goals in life and caring for other people.
What people dont realize is that other people CANT make you happy in the long run. THAT IS A FACT. A relationship will end quickly if a person is relying their happiness on their boyfriend/girlfriend.
1. Ego and self esteem is not the same thing. Where did you get that from?
2. Self esteem is everything. Your relationship will either be a disaster or it will eventually break up if you have low self esteem. You will constantly seek approval from your mate or other people.
I basically came in here to say these exact things. Point 1 and 2. Ego ≠ Self-Esteem
I tend to be more annoyed by low self esteem than high self esteem/narcissism. There's nothing worse than being around someone who is constantly fishing for compliments and looking for approval on everything they do/say/wear/etc. But then again, I also hate it when somebody acts like I'M lucky to be around THEM.
If you have low self esteem and no confidence at all, you won't be able to make any relationship work and I'm saying that as somebody who has been plagued by low self esteem for years. A person with low self esteem will lean on their partner for everything and only be able to find confidence in that other person. Like how there are some people who only open up when they're around their partner and when they're by themselves they become really introverted and insecure. That's not good. You can't lean or depend on somebody else for 100% of the time, you need to learn to support yourself. If you don't love yourself first you can't love anybody else right.
Most of you have a point, but don't you think it's wishful thinking to some extent? It's a bit harsh, cause once you've lost your self-esteem it's hard to get that back, yet a relationship can be even helpful at these times, at least if they're not based off of selfishness.
