I met someone on the internet about 8 years ago. We have always lived a good distance apart so seeing each other in person has never been a something that happens unless we were to make a trip specifically for that or see each other in the same town. We've seen each other in person about 4 times because we happened to be going to the same cities. The last time we were going to be in the same city, he was traveling with a group of 6 people and I was rolling with a group of 3. We never had plans to see each other at a specific place, but figured we see each other at a club or certain events. He did tell me a club he was going to be at with his group and we decided to go. I did see him there. I also saw him the next day at an event because his friend happened to see me. He calls himself my friend. Should I have an expectation that two friends being in the same city should make an effort to spend time together? Does it make a difference if the person is traveling with a group of people or solo?
If you're that close then yes, I believe that the effort should be made.
That's how I feel, but I don't think he doing anything with ill will. He was texting me every night saying what club he would be at and then he was checking if we were both at the same event during the day when we saw each other and he was with his group of people. He also had an agenda of getting his mack on down there. I'm just trying to give all the information from both sides to see where anyone else stands on it. Last year when we were in the same city, we did go to dinner together and then meet up to go out the next night. I just want to know if there should be an automatic expectation of making plans to do something if "friends" are going to be in the came city for a few days and going for fun.
. You should try, though, tell him to meet alone at some random place you both like and such.