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Discussion: How would you confront someone who...
Member Since: 7/12/2010
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How would you confront someone who...
How would you confront someone who you were close to, that didn't believe in Homosexuality?
I have been dating this guy for a couple of months, love him & everything of course, but last night we had an argument about homosexuality & how he thinks gays made the choice for their lifestyle.
He wrote this on my fb wall:
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I have nothing against gay people...but I just find it extremely hard to believe that people are born gay. God made Adam & Eve not Adam & Steve...Doesnt the bible condemn homosexuality?? so why would God allow a baby to be born gay?
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I'm not gay, but when people say its a choice, it really annoys me..
If I would have known he felt this way before hand, I would not have been interested in dating him... too late now.  I guess we have to agree to disagree
Question is, how would you handle the situation if one day someone you were close too said these type of things to you... or even condemned you for being Gay?
Drop them like a fly? or work out your differences?
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Member Since: 5/14/2009
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'God made Adam & Eve not Adam & Steve.'
I've been seeing this alot lately,i have no idea why. He sure in tha hell didn't make Eve & Melissa either,so let's stop with tha ****ing nonsense.
Way back when,i used to get kinda iffy when people talked **** about gays,never to tha point where i would say something cuz i never gave that much of a ****. Nowadays,meh. Say wutchu want. Don't worry bout who im stickin im lickin,just mad it ain't yours 
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Member Since: 8/17/2010
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I would tell him that he needs to be educated about his ignorance, because it's a problem. 
But it's definitely no reason to break up with him. He could just genuinely not understand, and he needs someone to explain things to him, or something...
If he continues afterward, however, dump his ass.
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Member Since: 9/18/2011
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Oh hell no at him using that tired, used up, "Adam & Eve, not Adam & Steve" excuse
I would tell them " Well, sorry to tell you but I like penis.  "
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Member Since: 5/9/2011
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This would literally be my reaction:
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Member Since: 4/6/2011
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Tell him that God made Adam Eve and Steve.  jk.
you can tell him about all of the suicides that gay people have commited because they werent accepted by their loved ones. 
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Member Since: 7/12/2010
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It's just so ****ing annoying, because he continues to rant about it on facebook to prove me wrong I guess.. even though I nicely asked him to stop discussing it, since its a soft spot for me.
I would expect some old hag born in the 50's to bring up that "Adam & Eve" line, but not him!
Thats not being uneducated, thats borderline stupidity & ****ing retardation.
How the hell can you bring up the bible passages, when you don't even use the bible?!
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Member Since: 5/17/2010
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This is a really difficult thing. Most of my extended family is from the Caribbean and very staunch in their opposition to homosexuality.  But, my family is still very respectful and very loving, but at times I feel as if I'm being tolerated not accepted.
One one hand, I want to be respected for who I am and not told that who I am is wrong but should I sever a positive relationship because someone's own beliefs?
I would say it largely depends on the relationship with that person. How long have I known them? Are they a relative? Are they positive forces in my life?
And lastly, if you end the relationship, would that negatively effect you?
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Member Since: 4/6/2011
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tell him that its one of the worst sins he can commit. using gods words to condemn an entire group of people.
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Member Since: 8/22/2009
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SImply say that the bible they love says all sins are equal and since judging others is a sin, it's equal to being gay.
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Member Since: 11/3/2010
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Drop them like a bad habit.
Ask him since he's against homosexuality because "God" says its wrong, does he also believe in slavery?
Ask him that since "God" says women are not to be treated the same as men, does he also believe in sexual discrimination?
The bible is outdated, untrue, and fictional. It says we shouldn't eat shrimp either.
So, if I'm going to hell for getting my ass ****ed, I'm taking all of Red Lobster with me.
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Member Since: 7/12/2010
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Originally posted by ****y On Venus
This is a really difficult thing. Most of my extended family is from the Caribbean and very staunch in their opposition to homosexuality. But, my family is still very respectful and very loving, but at times I feel as if I'm being tolerated not accepted.
One one hand, I want to be respected for who I am and not told that who I am is wrong but should I sever a positive relationship because someone's own beliefs?
I would say it largely depends on the relationship with that person. How long have I known them? Are they a relative? Are they positive forces in my life?
And lastly, if you end the relationship, would that negatively effect you? |
It sucks, because I really love him & other than this stupid belief, he's nearly perfect to me.. but if he's not willing to open his mind up maybe to learn more about homosexuality, then yes I probably will unfortunately break it off with him.
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tell him that its one of the worst sins he can commit. using gods words to condemn an entire group of people. |
This is such a good point. It's sick to use the bible hatefully.
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Member Since: 7/12/2010
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Originally posted by TheOnlyOne
Drop them like a bad habit.
Ask him since he's against homosexuality because "God" says its wrong, does he also believe in slavery?
Ask him that since "God" says women are not to be treated the same as men, does he also believe in sexual discrimination?
The bible is outdated, untrue, and fictional. It says we shouldn't eat shrimp either.
So, if I'm going to hell for getting my ass ****ed, I'm taking all of Red Lobster with me.
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 You're not going to hell for getting ****ed in the ass, it all depends on where your faith stands. But good point 
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Originally posted by satellites™
SImply say that the bible they love says all sins are equal and since judging others is a sin, it's equal to being gay.
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Exactly! You're gonna tell someone what the bible says about being gay, while in the process of doing something else the bible also states not to do.
Thanks gerls!
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Member Since: 8/23/2011
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agree to disagree.....
Oh and I'm loving your avi , Minzy is my absolute bias 
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Member Since: 7/12/2010
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agree to disagree.....
Oh and I'm loving your avi , Minzy is my absolute bias |
You're right & thankss bew 
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Member Since: 8/30/2011
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Originally posted by satellites™
SImply say that the bible they love says all sins are equal and since judging others is a sin, it's equal to being gay.
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Honestly, I hate when people say that. Because that still suggests that being gay is a sin. 
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Member Since: 8/30/2011
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Originally posted by TheOnlyOne
Drop them like a bad habit.
Ask him since he's against homosexuality because "God" says its wrong, does he also believe in slavery?
Ask him that since "God" says women are not to be treated the same as men, does he also believe in sexual discrimination?
The bible is outdated, untrue, and fictional. It says we shouldn't eat shrimp either.
So, if I'm going to hell for getting my ass ****ed, I'm taking all of Red Lobster with me.
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We gon' take the whole Sunday brunch crew with us.
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Member Since: 9/17/2011
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Well his first mistake was taking the bible as a true story. 
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Member Since: 6/16/2010
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To be completely honest you are probably too good to be spending time with someone like that.
Sadly a lot of people who think like that have been raised that way and often talking them round is almost impossible If I were you I would try explaining how you feel about it, if they are open to listening why you think it is ok then tell them, explain to them why in your opinion they are wrong, if they don't want to listen then they are probably not worth it.
Hope the situation gets better for you, I know how tough it can be to have someone you care about just have totally different beliefs and morals. Hope that helps somewhat.
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Member Since: 8/16/2011
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If he's bringing up this stuff to bother you, he doesn't sound like a very nice guy. My boyfriend and I are ideological opposites in many ways (I'm very liberal, he doesn't even believe in government) and we have discussions about our beliefs, in private. He doesn't go bringing stuff up in public to try and shame me, especially not topics that I am sensitive about.
As for his actual beliefs, there are so many things the Bible can be justified for. Slavery. Treating women like animals. Not wearing mixed fabrics, eating shellfish, or getting tattoos. Does he believe in those? The Bible has dozens more verses about the evils of gluttony, does he judge every fat person he sees as well? I'm guessing not.
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