Ok, so I'm in need of some advice! And it's the juiciest kind... relationship advice. Here's the situation:

I met a guy in early January of this year and over the course of that month we got to know each other and even messed around a little. We also discussed potentially dating. I wasn't in a rush to move forward with a full-fledged relationship, but things seemed to be going fine.

One day I had to cancel on hanging out with him because I was sick (pounding headache, upset stomach, nausea/dizziness, the works), and he got extremely upset about it and acted like I was bailing on him for something stupid. Later that day, a friend of mine saw an ad he'd posted on Craigslist... looking for sex I didn't initially ask him about the ad, but it was weighing on my mind for sure. My first thought was about how shady that is, but I chose to overlook the post because he and I weren't dating or anything, just talking.

I rescheduled to hang out with him the next day, and he asked me to have sex with him that night. I told him I didn't want to rush it. I don't think he liked that... and you'll see why later.

Later that week I saw another Craigslist ad, in which stated he was looking for a **** buddy type situation... someone that would come over and let him **** them on a semi-regular basis. That's not what I was looking for at all. I texted him asking if we could talk.

Basically, he told me (over text...) he didn't see us going anywhere because we had nothing in common (which wasn't true by a long shot), and he then had the nerve to say he didn't even see the potential for us to be friends (when every time we'd hung out we'd gotten along perfectly well, without sex). That led me to believe all he'd ever wanted was sex... which he confirmed by saying after his ex broke up with him (which I assume wasn't too long before he met me, though I'm not sure), he used me to fill a void... Additionally, he pulled the "I'm going through a tough time right now, and you should have known what you were getting into." Truth be told, I knew exactly what I was getting into, and I told him I was willing to listen to whatever he needed to talk about or express. Apparently the only expression he wanted was that of a sexual nature.

I was incredibly offended after having spent time getting to know him and letting him into my life, though it's not as if strong feelings were developed. I just felt like I'd wasted my time opening up to someone who was just going to toss me out like a washed-up pop star. I didn't blow up on him, and I was classy and respectful, but I let him know how I felt then went my way and let him go his. I can't say there were no hard feelings, because there certainly are, and I readily moved on. But...

Now, a month later, he wants to talk again! Here's what the text said:

What do I say in my reply? What would you say in your reply? Should I even reply? I could come up with something on my own, but I want to know what you would do in this situation. I appreciate the help!

Well be honest with him and tell him how u felt and how u feel now, and let him know that if something ever happens it would be on ur own terms not his.

Thanks! I added as much as I could to the story without giving every single detail, but I certainly don't have the greatest impression of him based on how he treated me. Honesty has always been my strongpoint, I'm just not sure if I should even respond.

True. I do want to respond. But at the same time I don't think I'd be willing to pursue anything romantic with him again. It didn't work before because he made a hasty and poorly thought-out decision to prematurely and abruptly cease communication, and he will need to realize how that decision impacted me and my view of him. I appreciate your advice greatly, both of you! Definitely gives me some different perspectives on the situation.

I do still feel like he's looking for a casual sex relationship, but this text, in particular, seems to just be saying he regrets cutting me off so abruptly and without warning, and that he wants to at least be friends again (that's pretty much all I'd even consider). I just need to figure out if that's even worth it to me at this point, because ultimately he made his decision, and I'm all about second chances, but some people make you wonder because their initial negative actions are so ridiculous that talking to them again seems like it might be more drama than it's worth.

It most definitely hasn't started off great. Lol. I met him at a post office, then we started talking, and from there it seemed ok... but abruptly ended for no good reason. He isn't the most attractive guy, but I was somewhat drawn to him. I at least wanted a friendship. Whether or not I still want that friendship is what I have to decide... But I have the upper hand if he wants to be friends again, because I don't have to prove myself to him, he has to prove himself to me. :]

Now I just have to phrase it in a way that doesn't come off as bitchy, lol.

I dont see anything wrong with being friends , but I would keep an eye out for his true intentions.

Something must have changed his mind though. But he has already shown you a side of himself , do you think he could really do a 360?

I have been in a similar sitaution before. It sucks. I chose not to reply , I didnt think it was worth the pain. That said he was a great guy , I just had to put myself first.

Hope all goes well , besides regardless of whatever happens , Im sure a guy like you will have no trouble picking up another fine piece of ass

Lol! Thanks! I don't think he could pull a 360... at least not in such a short amount of time. Ultimately I do have to put myself first as well, so we'll see. :]

Shouldnt this be in the blogs section?