so after updating to IOS 10 ive noticed we cannot choose what song to play next in a playlist, we also dont have the option anymore to start off with a certain song in a shuffle playlist. There use to be an option to start off with a certain song, then in the lower right corner it had an option to start shuffle after the song was over.

Did apple take these options out or am i missing something?

It's there. You have to utilize the 3D Touch now to choose what song to play next or play later etc.

"Up Next" is a mess now. They got rid of the "clear all" option. And mine will still play songs I've cleared or start playing random songs.

ok well, when i play a song, how do i make it start to shuffle after the song is over? (in a playlist)

ok i got that part, but in a playlist, when i choose a song i want to hear first, how do i make it shuffle after the song is over?

It uses 3D Touch but I find it really unreliable. Truly a tragedy when you have a fire up next & you go to queue up another song & it interprets the beginning of a hard touch as a soft touch & you lose the playlist