Discussion: Have you ever tried to remain friends with an ex?

Ethereal

So me and my boyfriend split almost two months ago, he was also my best friend. The relationship didn't end on bad terms and there isn't any bad blood between us. We've tried to remain friends but he can't stand me living my life, he unfollowed me on Instagram ( ). When I asked why he did that, he replied 'I just don't want to see you on there' and I asked 'why?' and he didn't give an answer.

I'm kind of exhausted at this point. It's like he can see other people but he doesn't like seeing me happy with someone else or with other people.

Is it possible to remain friends with an ex?

M A R N ✮

yeah pretty much with all of them

Ethereal

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Originally posted by Denis Stoff

yeah pretty much with all of them

Did the friendships work out?

M A R N ✮

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Originally posted by Ethereal

Did the friendships work out?

with my bf of 3 years! it did not at first but just recently we became good friends

now I go over to his house for dinner and catch up! my 2nd one I was friends with for a long time, just recently I just had to break the friendship because me and my best friend both dated him, and my latest Terry (we were really good friends for a while till get got a gf she did not like us being friends so ofcourse he stopped it) but it ws pretty easy as it was...but I still talk to them all once and a while

spend so much time with them its hard to take them completely out you're life...it can be hard though.

pr_

Yeap, it's a mess and will never work.

Can't_M!ss_This

No. It's rarely ever a good idea. I've tried with all of my exes and every single time it's been awkward.

Move on. Don't look back. You'll regret it if you do. As has been shown, you can't be happy with them. If you can't share your life without him getting weird, you're not friends. It's best to just not bother

jomarr

Rarely works. If it "works" it ends up both of you still want each other.

Ethereal

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Originally posted by Denis Stoff

with my bf of 3 years! it did not at first but just recently we became good friends

now I go over to his house for dinner and catch up! my 2nd one I was friends with for a long time, just recently I just had to break the friendship because me and my best friend both dated him, and my latest Terry (we were really good friends for a while till get got a gf she did not like us being friends so ofcourse he stopped it) but it ws pretty easy as it was...but I still talk to them all once and a while

spend so much time with them its hard to take them completely out you're life...it can be hard though.

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Originally posted by Can't_M!ss_This

No. It's rarely ever a good idea. I've tried with all of my exes and every single time it's been awkward.

Move on. Don't look back. You'll regret it if you do. As has been shown, you can't be happy with them. If you can't share your life without him getting weird, you're not friends. It's best to just not bother

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Originally posted by jomarr

Rarely works. If it "works" it ends up both of you still want each other.

whatisthetruth.gif

The reason me and my ex aren't together right is because I'm doing a year abroad. Yes, I know a lot can change in a year but I was his first boyfriend and I'd like to remain in his life as a friend at least.

Shizuka

I guess I'm rare, my ex who I dated for over a year is my best friend and we get along great. Talk about even the relationships we've gotten into after our break up.

PromKing

My ex's all HATEEEEEEEEEEE me so Ii couldn't even if I wanted to lol

Jezang Looz

It's awkward. I am with a few but we never see each other so it's fine.

My most recent one is lowkey causing me problems. I'm probably going to move on soon

J a y

I feel like I've answered this question several times in various ways but yes, I have a high success rate of relationships mutually ending but continuing as friendships. Even as of a few days ago one of my exes moved to the other side of London and made sure I knew which I thought was nice tbh.

We're not meeting for drinks at the pub every weekend but we're all mature adults and there's reason we liked one another so I'd never want to cut ties completely.

I don't really get on with a lot of people. Not everyone is really nice, geniune and interesting to talk to. The few that I really connect with, I try to maintain that for along as possible and at least keep in contact every now and then. You never know when you may need someone.

Lukey

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Originally posted by Shizuka

I guess I'm rare, my ex who I dated for over a year is my best friend and we get along great. Talk about even the relationships we've gotten into after our break up.

Awww, I can see this being a total rom-com situation and in 20 years time, you two will realise you're each others love of their life and you'll be together again

keshaspearsxo

If you're a mature, level headed person there's no reason you can't

Ps. That guy obviously still likes you

Outlaws

I am.

danielins

It can work, but it also cannot

It can get really painful when the other starts to see other people or showing any signs of getting over it like going on vacations without you, for example. You can still be friends, but maybe is a good idea to give some time between you two so you can work though the break up on your own and then try to restart as friends when these feelings are less intense. He obviously isn't over you yet.

OT: I did, but the guy wasn't exactly a boyfriend. Anyway, it lasted for like two years, but then he became really annoying and toxic so I ended the friendship and never saw him again.

Shizuka

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Originally posted by SorryI'mLuke

Awww, I can see this being a total rom-com situation and in 20 years time, you two will realise you're each others love of their life and you'll be together again

I recall thinking on if we got back together a bit after we broke up and I'm not here for it, we love each other as friends and it's better.

Ethereal

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Originally posted by keshaspearsxo

If you're a mature, level headed person there's no reason you can't

Ps. That guy obviously still likes you

I don't know about that. He said he can't see himself getting into a relationship with anyone ever again. But then a few days later he started obsessing over this new guy and things didn't work out for them.

moonlight.

nope. i believe an ex is an ex.
wait scratch that, yeah i tried lol. and then we ended up getting back together again and then i ended it for good lol

Citrus

'tried' is the operative word here