Member Since: 2/14/2005
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We are all people, right? No matter what color, religion, gender, we all are people, right? We as people want to be accepted, loved, acknowledged, and noticed just like everyone else right? In this world that we live in now, it seems like we segregate ourselves more and more each day. My point and case: dating. If you are single, you have standards, but not strict enough standards to narrow out all possibilities, right? Main standards should be funny, smart, attentive, truthful and physically attractive right? Why do some people (un)intendedly add race as well? Who's to say you won't be attracted to a girl/guy of a different color with the same EXACT standards? It kinda pisses me off how people say "oh, they aren't my type" intending meaning on personality when they are more than likely passing up a good opportunity because of race, and could be dating another person with the SAME qualities or worst, but SAME race.
My question to you all: Is there a secret barrier that some people bare within them? Are some people afraid to without a doubt, unquestionably date someone outside of their race with the qualities they look for in a person in fear that their friends, their family, their peers won't approve? I know some folks that boldly step out the boundaries (Sasha!) of their race AND religion because they are very much so interested in that one person, regardless of any differences. Though this person knows that their parent's aren't comfortable with their desicion, they fight through the turmoil because they REALLY dig the person they are dating.
I've observed and experienced ALL too well being passed up for what I have a STRONG inkling to be race, and being the analytical person I am, today it dawned on me: WTF mate? Yes, a relationship should be based on common ground, but I think a person can date so much of the same criteria until it dawning on them: "What am I missing?" I feel that people vary, but can only vary so much that it becomes 'something already done', in a sense, BORING. Is it that people just take things as they come to them and show no real effort into expanding their horizons or is it that people are afraid to cross that line in fear of what others may say or think about them? People come up with that lame 'if she was a celebrity' excuse, what if she WASN'T a celebrity? People say they'll bang Lucy Liu, Halle Berry, Gabrielle Union, LL Cool J, Brad Pitt, Orlando Bloom while they're on the big screen, but reality is they probably even look their way if they were normies. Shame.
Two people of different races, hypothetically, they have the SAME qualities, nice body, cute, smart, loyal, and funny, you met them at the same time, all your life you've dated your own race and you said you wanted a change: what's keeping you from dating the other race (at this very moment)?
Mind you, this isn't to MAKE someone change their mind, cause I know everyone has thought about this at SOMETIME in their lives, this is to open up an unwritten property that occurs every second of everyday.
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