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Discussion: Anti-Lesbian Sentiments On ATRL
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Anti-Lesbian Sentiments On ATRL
The topic of Anti-Lesbian attitudes in this board occasionally is brought up from time to time, but I never feel like anyone has ever actually tried to tackle it head on.
Starting off, I'm a Lesbian. I came out to my parents just last year and always felt like ATRL was a community that I can truly be myself without the fear of being insulted or ashamed. There is a large gay community in this site and for the most part, I felt like the community as a whole tried everything they could to stop homophobia, especially on this site. There are always news articles shredding those who have anti-gay views and we're usually quick to point out any discrimination in the news.
However, on the topic on Lesbians, I feel like a lot of ATRL's, especially gay males, like to make easy yet pathetic jokes or digs against Lesbians. Any time there is a P!nk thread, there has always been people to call her a "d***", and not in a funny way, but as a serious "meant to hurt" insult. Also, people insult her masculinity, her image and her sexuality. This is very hurtful to any women out there who act more tomboyish then most females. It's the automatic assumption that if you're somewhat masculine, you can't possibly be straight, which is definitely not the case.
I'm always floored when I see people making those comments as we have all faced or knew of someone who has been affected by homophobic insults. I feel as though we all should have the maturity to not make such comments and know that these insults hurt not only the person they meant to target, but a community as a whole. Just know that even if you make these comments in jest, it still hurts and still perpetuates the stereotypes and homophobia. The people who don't say anything and let the comments continue are just as bad. It is not funny rather it is downright bullying.
I want the ATRL community to stop allowing these comments to go on. We should reprimand those who make such comments. Going into that P!nk thread felt like a straight up tirade against Lesbians and masculine females and honestly, made me feel like people were insulting me personally. I'm just disappointed by certain member's mentality and shocked by the ignorance, even on ATRL with one of the biggest gay communities.
Just know that if you make these comments, you are essentially preventing progress to be made. Changes in society will happen once more people in society stand up to fight for what is right. I am truly disappointed with some of you members.
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You're taking it too seriously.
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 Perfectly said!
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Originally posted by RaeseanLohan
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No she isn't. Get out.
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Completely agree with everything you said. 
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not a lie told. Accept everyone.
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I'm surprised this is the first time somebody has actually addressed this.
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Originally posted by RaeseanLohan
You're taking it too seriously. |
No, she's not. If someone were making anti-gay threads, 99% of ATRL would tear them apart. But when it's lesbian jokes, everyone laughs.
aloirt, thank you for posting this thread. What you said is really important and long overdue here on ATRL. It also really bothers me and I've noticed it time and time again. Kudos to you for speaking up.
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Originally posted by mannybillionz
I gave some of my extra-strength old spice deodorant to a lesbian once . |
Get out 
Yass stan for lesbians
#rockstarshit
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P!nk isn't a lesbian though she's a ****.
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Atrl doesn't like females in general unless they give them music they pop their nonexistant ******* and live vicariously though them 
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preach! Agree 100%. I don't get what gay guys have against lesbians. Maybe I'm generalizing now too, but It seems to be the queens/flamboyant gays who have the biggest issue with lesbians. It makes no sense!!
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I'm sorry you've been offended several times  but thanks for addressing this, I agree with you and I'm sure other members feel the same way
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Originally posted by NE.
I'm surprised this is the first time somebody has actually addressed this. |
I know right?
And i agree w/the OP.
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Originally posted by RaeseanLohan
You're taking it too seriously. |
If the same attitude was towards gay males you know the uproar it would cause here on ATRL. Why is it allowed to directed to gay females?
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Originally posted by aloirt
The topic of Anti-Lesbian attitudes in this board occasionally is brought up from time to time, but I never feel like anyone has ever actually tried to tackle it head on.
Starting off, I'm a Lesbian. I came out to my parents just last year and always felt like ATRL was a community that I can truly be myself without the fear of being insulted or ashamed. There is a large gay community in this site and for the most part, I felt like the community as a whole tried everything they could to stop homophobia, especially on this site. There are always news articles shredding those who have anti-gay views and we're usually quick to point out any discrimination in the news.
However, on the topic on Lesbians, I feel like a lot of ATRL's, especially gay males, like to make easy yet pathetic jokes or digs against Lesbians. Any time there is a P!nk thread, there has always been people to call her a "d***", and not in a funny way, but as a serious "meant to hurt" insult. Also, people insult her masculinity, her image and her sexuality. This is very hurtful to any women out there who act more tomboyish then most females. It's the automatic assumption that if you're somewhat masculine, you can't possibly be straight, which is definitely not the case.
I'm always floored when I see people making those comments as we have all faced or knew of someone who has been affected by homophobic insults. I feel as though we all should have the maturity to not make such comments and know that these insults hurt not only the person they meant to target, but a community as a whole. Just know that even if you make these comments in jest, it still hurts and still perpetuates the stereotypes and homophobia. The people who don't say anything and let the comments continue are just as bad. It is not funny rather it is downright bullying.
I want the ATRL community to stop allowing these comments to go on. We should reprimand those who make such comments. Going into that P!nk thread felt like a straight up tirade against Lesbians and masculine females and honestly, made me feel like people were insulting me personally. I'm just disappointed by certain member's mentality and shocked by the ignorance, even on ATRL with one of the biggest gay communities.
Just know that if you make these comments, you are essentially preventing progress to be made. Changes in society will happen once more people in society stand up to fight for what is right. I am truly disappointed with some of you members.
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OMG you did not just bring tears to my eyes... 
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Well said sis, speak on it and spread the word.
You've gotta get up and try.
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This post makes me feel bad for having "lesbian" under my sexual orientation even though I didn't really mean it maliciously by having it there.
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