I have a strong opinion when it comes to obesity and people letting it slide under the radar. Ever since moving to America I've witnessed it being more normal than abnormal to telling obese people that they are perfectly fine and beautiful within their body. I don't necessary agree with the correct term of fat shaming, however most people I've met believe that when you tell someone that they are unhealthy and need to change their body you are fat shaming them. So with this thread I wanna know is fat shaming wrong or right considering the circumstances and what exactly is fat shaming since we all seem the have different definition
I dont think complete strangers should tell others to lose weight but if its someone you love then u shouldnt tell them they look beautiful fat because 1 ur probably lying and 2 it has negative health consequences
I consider that being more of an advice than fat shaming. Would it be better if I lied and told them everything is perfectly fine when in fact they are unhealthy?
I dont think complete strangers should tell others to lose weight but if its someone you love then u shouldnt tell them they look beautiful fat because 1 ur probably lying and 2 it has negative health consequences
I'm not talking about strangers in the op even though I made it sound like that I agree with you. Lying is worse since it could lead to health problems.
Let people be fat if they want to be fat, like seriously. If it's not affecting you, then it's not really any of your business to tell others what they should do, eat, or look like. Even if it is in their so called "best interest".
I consider that being more of an advice than fat shaming. Would it be better if I lied and told them everything is perfectly fine when in fact they are unhealthy?
How about telling them nothing and minding your own business?
Fat people know they're fat and/or unhealthy, they don't need you pointing it out to them.
They could be trying their best to lose weight NATURALLY in healthy ways, your "advice" will only hurt their self esteem.
I consider that being more of an advice than fat shaming. Would it be better if I lied and told them everything is perfectly fine when in fact they are unhealthy?
You don't have to tell them anything at all. Unsolicited advice always come across as an insult. If somebody doesn't ask you, don't give an answer.
I think you should suggest them they should lose weight or etc, if it's becoming a danger to their health. I don't think you should really force the person to drop the weight if it's not their choice.
I consider that being more of an advice than fat shaming. Would it be better if I lied and told them everything is perfectly fine when in fact they are unhealthy?
The thing is, you don't need to tell anyone anything unless they ask.
Edit: I saw your newer posts, but it still stands for other people who may think that way.
We heckle smokers for smoking in public places because of their health. Although there isn't such thing as "second hand fat". Diabetes isn't contagious. But its sort of a same difference
It's always wrong to shame, but of course fitness and health promotion should be promoted. Being "thin" or "skinny" should never be promoted because those are a terrible physical focus rather than the central issue: health.
I think to a certain point it's right. I think people have this habit of thinking obese = healthy when in reality it's very unhealthy. Obesity contributed to my grandpa's death.
How about telling them nothing and minding your own business?
Fat people know they're fat and/or unhealthy, they don't need you pointing it out to them.
They could be trying their best to lose weight NATURALLY in healthy ways, your "advice" will only hurt their self esteem.
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Originally posted by Guernica
You don't have to tell them anything at all. Unsolicited advice always come across as an insult. If somebody doesn't ask you, don't give an answer.
Aren't we letting it slide then? Society has no problem discussing other health problems such as smoking, drinking, varies diseases but not obesity. I would obviously never walk up to a complete stranger and give them an advice since that is rude I'm talking more about people you know family members friends etc.
We heckle smokers for smoking in public places because of their health. Although there isn't such thing as "second hand fat". Diabetes isn't contagious. But its sort of a same difference
Nope.
And smokers I always see more as a because of one's own health or even just not liking the smell.
Aren't we letting it slide then? Society has no problem discussing other health problems such as smoking, drinking, varies diseases but not obesity. I would obviously never walk up to a complete stranger and give them an advice since that is rude I'm talking more about people you know family members friends etc.
You thinking shaming encourages people to lose weight? You are wrong.
I was very overweight when I was younger.... and I promise you... the jackasses who fat shame do NOTHING but make the problem worse.
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I agree with you. Lying is worse since it could lead to health problems.
