Hi atrl I keep seeing this phrase on atrl and I want to ask a question.. do you personally find it offensive

I've never personally seen it myself because I'm not on dating sites but explain

Of course it's offensive. I've never actually seen it in real life either, though.

Although I'm white and therefore, obviously privileged when it comes to these, I avoid interactions with elitist assholes. There is nothing wrong with having types, but the fact that a person is using these terms tells a lot about their character, and that simply they're not ones I'm looking for.

Ddd reminded me of when this happened

"I prefer vanilla and spice, I'll pass on the chocolate and rice"

Though I'm not black nor Eastern Asian, I still find it annoying.
It's blatant racism and I always avoid these guys.

the accuracy

I get the rice and chocolate but what/who does spice even refer to?

Anyways that line is tacky af and idc how attractive you are, you're automatically ugly if you use it

I'd never say something like that myself but I mean it's mostly used on hookup apps like Grindr and stuff, and everyone has preferences and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

And that's the T. You get used to people who are around you the most. There's nothing wrong with that.

Yes, I find it offensive and as a south indian guy, I never know which categorie I fall in. Rice ? Spice ?

edit: It's one thing to have preferences (everyone have them) but it's an other to completely block out an entire "race"/ethnicity, it's called racism.

Latin men.

I'm white and I find it offensive. "It's just a preference" is just a lame excuse for racism.

The accuracy.

There's preferences ("A plus if you're black") and there's racism ("no rice, no spice, no chocolate"); one is automatically excluding people of a certain ethnic background without due consideration. Doesn't take a genius to realize how society conditions us to like certain things.

While the reason behind them excluding an entire race (no chocolate for example) might be racist I don't think it's racist to state those preferences in hookup apps.

I didn't even know this was a real thing. I've always assumed it was just an ATRL myth.

disgusting racism.