Or any stories related... like if you were so close to telling someone, but didn't, or if you're in a closet when do you think you'll come out/who would you tell first?

I'll go first. It's actually kinda awkward, it's not really a "coming out" story. I'm still "closeted", but I guess you can kind of tell that I'm gay just because of the way I talk (don't want to sound stereotypical), but no one would ask if I'm gay (it's a polite thing I guess). Anyway, while working my manager and I always talk and she has tons of gay friends. She asked if I was gay and I just stuttered and was like "uh..ex...cus...w..hy..?" and she's like "...?" and she just said "Nevermind". It was awkward for the whole shift, and let me tell you -- it was a long one. I've just never been asked before, even if it is obvious.

if i was a les probably my mother
since she thinks i am one anyway.

Haven't come out yet !
I don't think my mom's heart is strong enough for this...

my friends all knew before i did

I haven't come out yet but some of my big friends already knows it and they support me
I think my parents will accept it but u never know.

When I was in the closet, I really didn't want to tell anybody ever. I was telling myself I would marry a woman, have kids and a dog

Then, at one moment, and it will happen for all of you who're still closeted, it just hit me. I couldn't keep it inside any longer. One day, my best friend asked me if I loved someone. At this point, I started shacking so bad and I was SOOO anxious. It took me 2 hours to answer the question. I kept avoiding the subject and finally told her I was bi I couldn't tell her I was gay. She was really schoked, because I never acted gay at all and was a player with girls in high school. But, she took it well and asked 1000 questions. After one week, I finally told her I was gay and not bi!

When you start coming out, it just explodes, you can't stop. I pierced my right ear (which is supposedly a sign of being gay. Everyone in my school was talking in my back when I did that wondering if I were really gay. Then, I just couldn't keep it inside any longer and put in my facebook that I was interested in : men.

I received so many SMS, inbox, messages!! But 99% were super excited and fine with it! I only remember one person that I knew (which wasn't a close friend at all) that had a bad reaction. Oh well, I just deleted him and it finished there.

After that, I went for the first time to a gay club. The first time was akward, but the second time around and all the times after that were so great!!!

So that's it! The best decision I've made in my life. Lying to your friends about yourself is the worse feeling IMO

Oh by the way, that was about 2 years ago. I was 18 at that time

Yeah found it hard in teen years. Turned 18, had always knew I'd never live my life a lie. Told my close friends I was gay at 18. Then told extended people in my life after that but kept avoiding my family as I found it hard. I felt I betrayed them by keeping in a lie for so long.

People never asked me as I don't act gay, and everyone is usually surprised. Anyway Im really close with my aunt and she didnt even ask, she just said one day "You're gay. I know because you don't like girls, you never did". And I was shocked, but I just admitted to it, and we both hugged. After that I told my cousins and some aunts and uncles. It wasn't until 3 months ago that I told my parents. It was really hard, but I had a boyfriend at the time so I needed them to know I was in love with someone. I told my mam I was going out with a guy, and she was like "ok thats fine", and then for some reason I started crying and she was like "why are you crying? Theres nothing to cry about. You cant help who you love" and she hugged me, and was like "why are you getting upset?" and she didnt understand why I thought being gay was bad. She told Dad then, and he said "ok". That's all. He found it a little hard, but told me after that he didnt mind that I was gay. It felt nice

Anyway Im out to everyone now, and I am now 21. It is hard, but trust me, you do not want to live a lie. You will regret it forever on your death bed that you didnt live your one chance in life being who you are, being the TRUE you. So if you are afraid, take very very very small steps, and tell a very very very close friend that you trust a lot, and eventually it will just start coming out! Do not keep it inside. It will destroy you emotionally.

your coming out experience it's just too beautiful and sometimes we are suffering pain innerly and we can't even screams out i love that boy/girl/it whatever, it's not our choice, it's hard, but we only live once to be bounded to a lie in our lifetime

my coming out was too shocking, not for my announcement, no, i was having hard familiar troubles and my dad gave me the warmest hand i ever feel and tell me, it's ok son, you just gotta be happy and all will be fine i love you, i feel so good inside was like something i never expected, and in my hometown the people it's just too homophobic and sometimes it's hard to hang out with a guy and the people backstabbing about you and him or her if you're a girl, but you got to stand up in front of the world and tell'em that you're not a joke that you're like this cause it's the way you feel and you can't fight against yourself,...

and sometimes when i feel hurted by others i remind what my daddy told me and i smile and all the tears inside are just gone



i wish that this gets better soon, we can live we all that hate up on us, up on our shoulders..

xxoo Sweethearts

aww that is so cute. Just like the movies. I'm actually out to everybody except my close family. My sister kinda know I think because of some comments she made, but we never really talked about it. In my head, I just can't imagine myself telling my mother in front of her. But, I'm telling myself that I thought the same thing about my friends 3 years ago. It was impossible for me to sit in front of one of them and tell them I was gay. Now, it's something so normal.

thanks

Where do you live and how old are you? I could never live in a small homophobic town...At least, I'm lucky that I live in a big city super open minded with so many places to meet and have fun with other gay people

I've told basically everyone that I've met online that I'm bisexual. Everyone in real life.. nope.

i lived in mexico, and i want to move on to LA with my familiars there and yeah, it's not that hard sweetheart, but here the people see the masculinity as the MOST!!!!! and the ladies are all just ****ed up with that ****, and i don't cause me so much problems now, cause i could accepted myself and i'm happy, here there are lotta gay places we're like a 1 million people and it's more open mind nowadays, but damn, the homophobic HURTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sooo afraid of coming out... I live in Brazil, in Nordeste, and here people are not so tolerant like in other states :-/

I have two friends who came out off of the closet, and they suffer so much bullying. I suffer bullying too, but I'm afraid it could get worse :-/

Sometimes, keep inside the closet it's the best option, if you think that ya life will be in danger, don't come out yet, just wait and move on, and don't worry, you got support, at least, via web xxoo, Sweetheart!

Am I out?

To most of my friends, yes. Let me tell you, coming out to my friends has been one of the best decisions in my life. All the struggles, depression, tears, sadness, etc...were all worth it. I feel so much closer to some of them, and nothing has really changed between us. They all still see me as this crazy, funny, outgoing kid.

Trust me, it does get better. I came out to my very close girlfriend on August 14, 2010. I will never forget this day. I remember coming out to her in a letter and giving it to her through facebook. She told me, she kind of had a feeling. She told me she loved me no matter what. She did write back, "we can be shopping girls now." Yay!

I then came out to my closer guy friend in December. He was like, "dude, i could give two ****s, you're my homie for life, and that's all that matters. We've been through thick and thin, and something like this wouldn't stop me from being your friend" He did ask me if I ever had a crush on him though. I never did considering I always saw him like a brother and that would be to awkward for me.

I then slowly started coming out to some more friends. They've all been nothing but support. AMAZING, support.

Before, in the past I would usually escape to my room and cry, cry, cry all my sadness away and I'm so happy I don't have to do that anymore.

What's my next goal?

Coming out to my very close sister.
Coming out to my parents before the year ends. I think that time is coming very soon, but i feel like I'm ready.

I just know that I'm going to live my life the way I want to live it.

We all deserve a shot at happiness, and the future seems very bright.

That's exactly what I'm going through.

But I've came out to two of my friends. They support me but I'm still afraid because I went through bullying when I was in Jr HS. I can't imagine going through it again...And, my father and brother are homophobic. So...nope.

I swear openly gay people are the bravest people in the world. Its funny how straight people stereotype gays as weak, while coming out is one of the most difficult decisions a person can have in one's lifetime. Straight people could never be this brave.

As for myself, I'm bi. I'm not out to my real life contacts bar a few people. I'm out to my online contacts mainly, especially to people on ATRL