Like, why can we not see all the shade we receive, and the dragging we get, and the abusive death threats, and the s and s with a simple notification system a la Facebook or GGD , instead of having to trail through every comment you made in your profile and scroll through the rest of the thread to see if anyone's answered?

yes

This has been answered multiple times already. It is a possible new function for the site once we upgrade though nothing is set in stone yet.