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Discussion: Have you Cheated in a Relationship?
Member Since: 8/31/2013
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Have you Cheated in a Relationship?
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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never, lol i am with the person i love
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Yes. And it isn't a simple thing like "if you wanna cheat, just leave him."
Cheating isn't usually just a physical thing. With my ex ex boyfriend of two years (on and off), the sex and the relationship itself had no chemistry. We had crushes on eachother but nothing really in common except the kind of music we liked so we built from there and now that I think about it, we forced the relationship because we already started it. We had oppisite personalities, I was passive aggressive, he was confrontational and blunt. I was romantic and sensitive and he was emotionally detached and liked to party. On top of that I was 18, he was 23. I was wanting someone to understand me. I cheated on him with a 16 year old because the innocence made me feel like I had control and it was beautiful. When I finally left him, but didn't tell him I cheated, he ran back to me 3 months later realizing I was his first love. He was my third (lol). I took him back cuz he was trying so hard and I felt bad, but the chemistry didn't grow at all, so I kept cheating. At this point, he was a whole different person, dedicated to love and me, but I was different too. He didn't get my sense of humor, my sexual needs, my complicated emotions. Me cheating changed who I am. I guess you could say I lost my one last bit of innocence once I cheated, I've never been the same since. I left him after two years of cheating and I definitely scarred him. And it's sad to know he will always take me back if i ever came back. He's a good person now but he changed for the better a little too late. Still, we never really meshed well anyway so I guess it was never meant to be.
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Member Since: 11/17/2011
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Originally posted by Cardinal_Luis
Yes. And it isn't a simple thing like "if you wanna cheat, just leave him."
Cheating isn't usually just a physical thing. With my ex ex boyfriend of two years (on and off), the sex and the relationship itself had no chemistry. We had crushes on eachother but nothing really in common except the kind of music we liked so we built from there and now that I think about it, we forced the relationship because we already started it. We had oppisite personalities, I was passive aggressive, he was confrontational and blunt. I was romantic and sensitive and he was emotionally detached and liked to party. On top of that I was 18, he was 23. I was wanting someone to understand me. I cheated on him with a 16 year old because the innocence made me feel like I had control and it was beautiful. When I finally left him, but didn't tell him I cheated, he ran back to me 3 months later realizing I was his first love. He was my third (lol). I took him back cuz he was trying so hard and I felt bad, but the chemistry didn't grow at all, so I kept cheating. At this point, he was a whole different person, dedicated to love and me, but I was different too. He didn't get my sense of humor, my sexual needs, my complicated emotions. Me cheating changed who I am. I guess you could say I lost my one last bit of innocence once I cheated, I've never been the same since. I left him after two years of cheating and I definitely scarred him. And it's sad to know he will always take me back if i ever came back. He's a good person now but he changed for the better a little too late. Still, we never really meshed well anyway so I guess it was never meant to be.
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you're a horrid person 
i would/have never
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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I was cheated on so I done it back just to get back at haaa
Then when things started to fall apart, she tried to make me feel bad that I was cheated on, so I got ha back 
But I would never do it to anyone else unless I was in the situation I was in before where it was just hate and a fear of being lonely
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by Elliot
you're a horrid person
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I'm a horrid person for admitting and owning up to my mistakes and realizing what I did scarred a changed person? K 
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Member Since: 10/1/2008
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Originally posted by Cardinal_Luis
Yes. And it isn't a simple thing like "if you wanna cheat, just leave him."
Cheating isn't usually just a physical thing. With my ex ex boyfriend of two years (on and off), the sex and the relationship itself had no chemistry. We had crushes on eachother but nothing really in common except the kind of music we liked so we built from there and now that I think about it, we forced the relationship because we already started it. We had oppisite personalities, I was passive aggressive, he was confrontational and blunt. I was romantic and sensitive and he was emotionally detached and liked to party. On top of that I was 18, he was 23. I was wanting someone to understand me. I cheated on him with a 16 year old because the innocence made me feel like I had control and it was beautiful. When I finally left him, but didn't tell him I cheated, he ran back to me 3 months later realizing I was his first love. He was my third (lol). I took him back cuz he was trying so hard and I felt bad, but the chemistry didn't grow at all, so I kept cheating. At this point, he was a whole different person, dedicated to love and me, but I was different too. He didn't get my sense of humor, my sexual needs, my complicated emotions. Me cheating changed who I am. I guess you could say I lost my one last bit of innocence once I cheated, I've never been the same since. I left him after two years of cheating and I definitely scarred him. And it's sad to know he will always take me back if i ever came back. He's a good person now but he changed for the better a little too late. Still, we never really meshed well anyway so I guess it was never meant to be.
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No judging..you seem a good boy!
Nevertheless..I hope I would never..
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Member Since: 9/16/2006
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never. my first relationship was horrible the person cheated on me twice but I still took her back  Now I know better.
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Member Since: 10/8/2009
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No. I have class, self-control and morals. It IS just as simple as walking away thesedays and I judge anyone who cheats.
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Member Since: 2/23/2012
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I have no time for cheaters
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Member Since: 10/8/2009
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Originally posted by Cardinal_Luis
I guess you could say I lost my one last bit of innocence once I cheated, I've never been the same since.
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Member Since: 2/16/2012
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Originally posted by PopBoi
No. I have class, self-control and morals. It IS just as simple as walking away thesedays and I judge anyone who cheats.
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Same. 
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Originally posted by PopBoi
No. I have class, self-control and morals. It IS just as simple as walking away these days and I judge anyone who cheats.
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So human emotions are simple and/or as simple as walking away and you judge me based off of a mistake I did when I was 18?
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Member Since: 10/8/2009
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Originally posted by Cardinal_Luis
So human emotions are simple and/or as simple as walking away and you judge me based off of a mistake I did when I was 18?
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yes, yes and yes
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Member Since: 8/1/2012
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Yup she doesn't know yet lol
Probably never will
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Member Since: 10/8/2009
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But in all seriousness whatever your age is, if you weren't emotionally ready then it wasn't really a proper 'relationship' to begin with.
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Member Since: 10/8/2009
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Originally posted by RomanNavy
Yup she doesn't know yet lol
Probably never will
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Member Since: 8/1/2012
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I've never been in a relationship yet so no 
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