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Poll: OkCupid: It's not racist if you prefer to date certain race
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View Poll Results: Is it racist if you choose not to date certain races?
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No, it’s a preference.
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56.49% |
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No, as long as the reason is not based on stereotypes.
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40.08% |
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Yes it is racist.
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55 |
20.99% |
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Undecided
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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OkCupid: It's not racist if you prefer to date certain race
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We looked at race in one of our very first posts, and today I’d like to revisit the topic with fresh data. This article folds in millions of person-to-person interactions
Here’s the verdict on race.
Way Back in 2009
Five years ago, the basics of race and attraction on OkCupid looked like this:
men
– non-black men applied a penalty to black women
– while black men showed little racial preference either way
women
– all women preferred men of their own race
– but they otherwise penalized both Asian and black men
Here’s how the exact person-to-person numbers shook out:
The values in these tables are “preference vs. the average.” Think of them as how people weigh race in deciding attraction. So, for example, in the bottom-right corner of the lower table, you see that white women think white men are 17% more attractive than the average guy. Move one square to the left, and you see that they think Latinos are 1% above average, and so on.
Has Anything Changed?
In some ways, no. OkCupid users are certainly no more open-minded than they used to be. If anything, racial bias has intensified a bit.
These numbers reflect different people year-to-year. Together the charts fold in data from some 25 million accounts.
One interesting thing is to compare what you see above with what those same users have told us about their racial attitudes. Answers to match questions have been getting significantly less biased over time:
And yet the underlying behavior has stayed the same.
Q: Are you saying that because I prefer to date [whatever race], I’m a racist?
On an individual level, a person can’t really control who turns them on—and almost everyone has a “type,” one way or another. But I do think the trend—that fact that race is a sexual factor for so many individuals, and in such a consistent way—says something about race’s role in our society. See below.
Q: All this data is from a dating site. What does that have to do with my life?
There are many situations that might not be explicitly romantic, but are nonetheless a lot like a first date. A job interview. Trying to rent an apartment. When you meet your freshman roommates. Anytime you’re trying to make an impression on a stranger. And science has long known that bonuses accrue to beautiful people: they have better outcomes at work and at school, more success with juries, even live longer lives, and so on. In short, “beautiful people” receive a lot of the same built-in benefits in our society that white people do.
So, yes, this is all just dating data, but it shows who and what we define as beautiful. And that’s something that affects everyone.
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Full Article: http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/ra...ion-2009-2014/
OKC just did a new study on race and attraction by analyzing the preferences, ratings, etc. of its members.
And it's interesting. They make a good point in the last section by explaining how racial preferences can be relevant in real life and not only the online dating world: people that are perceived to be beautiful receive more benefits in society.
As for the poll question, is it racist if you choose not to date people of a certain race? What if a Black guy messages you on OKC or POF and you ignore his message because you prefer other races, is that racist? 
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Member Since: 12/15/2009
Posts: 23,385
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Its not racist.  Same way some bottoms are all about size.. I love anyone with a cute face and good heart. SLAY though!
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Member Since: 8/19/2013
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Well duh. It's ignorant, not racist.
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Member Since: 8/18/2013
Posts: 40,566
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If you prefer to date a certain race, it's not racist.
However, if you say you will never date [insert race], it's very offensive.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
Posts: 37,384
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Interesting how it seems people are more vocal as time goes on.
I don't think a racial preference is racist any more than having a type is. Like I have a type but it encompasses a few different races in it
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Member Since: 4/7/2012
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I think saying "I strongly prefer to date my own race" is kinda understandable as long as you don't think it's wrong not to. But saying "whites only" or flat out singling out a race and saying "you're not attracted to them" IS racist.
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Member Since: 6/2/2011
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It's very true that being attractive (which is, among other things, correlated to youth) helps you a LOT in life.
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Member Since: 8/29/2012
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Nnn the gays are so guilty of this. It's not racist tho
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
Posts: 15,535
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Preferance isnt racist, not everyone is going to like everything. It is racist if you say 'ew i would never date ____ because ____ '
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Member Since: 10/14/2011
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Nah, it's preference which is based itself on chemical/biological attraction. Only if you state that you dislike those of a certain race rather than simply don't preference them does it become more of a racial issue.
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Member Since: 10/1/2011
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The struggle of being a black female is real.
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Member Since: 12/21/2011
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I'm all about the face and body personally. I don't give a **** about your skin color but if you're ugly to me, then that's that. 
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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No, as long as the reason is not based on stereotypes.
I would never say "I would never date a _____________ guy" but I definitely tend to be primarily attracted to certain races which have nothing to do with who they are as people, but how they look.
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Member Since: 1/1/2014
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I agree theres naturally better communication between members of the same racial group. Shared culture and understanding work that way which is why a large majority of people prefer to date in their racial group. I'm black and prefer to date black women, not because I'm a bigot, I actually find middle easter/Indian women to be VERY beautiful. BUT, as a black man I was raised by a black woman, I have black sisters and aunts as well. Naturally when I'm looking for a girl a black woman is what I have in mind.
They do say that boys want womem that remind them of their mothers. And this boys mother is a black woman 
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Member Since: 4/3/2014
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My opinion is that it's not racist to feel. You can't help who you're attracted to. A lot of us know this just from being gay. But I think it's racist to say it and put it out there for people of 'x' race to hear/read and be offended by.
If you're not attracted to one race, keep it to yourself.
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Member Since: 11/6/2010
Posts: 27,791
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Pretty sure this was already posted.
It's not racist to have a preference but I feel sorry for people who are only attracted to one race or rule out another completely tbh. There are hot people in every race. 
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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it's not racist to have certain physical preferences, lets face it, we all do. but I guess it is racist to completely rule out dating someone purely because of their race.
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Member Since: 12/1/2010
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There's a difference between: "I'm not into (insert) period, and never will be." Vs "I've just never seen a (insert) person I've found attractive." The former dismisses an entire race, and it is racist, while the latter does not judge an entire race as a singular entity but on an individual basis.
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Member Since: 10/15/2011
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I think it is silly to focus solely on one race. There are beautiful people from every race and you should look past the color of one's skin. It about killed my Italian grandparents when it happened, but my hubby is a wonderful black man.  We've been together for years now and I couldn't imagine life without him. But it took my grandparents a bit to warm up to him, but now they absolutely adore him too and consider him one of their own. Okay, I think I went off topic there for a bit.
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