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Discussion: Confess ...
Member Since: 8/17/2013
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We all go through our daily life keeping our issues and problems and secrets to ourselfs, only the lucky ones who were blessed with a close friend or sibling that understands them ad won't/doesn't judge them with which they discuss the things, and we all know there's no other relief like when you vent out ...
so I hope that this thread will be the destination for those who struggle with finding a listening ear or someone to share their worries with or just plain asking for a second say on something that's keeping you uneasy ...
please no judging one another or belittling others troubles/confessions or making fun of them, and I beg anyone who can lend an advice or share a similar struggle to go ahead and do so.
tl;dr : Confess what's bothering you, and vent out about your issues and problems.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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well let me start first then;
I hate the fact that I got my dad's genes and was genetically doomed to have a smaller figure than most guys my age, and no matter how hard I try to bulk up and gain weight my efforts are null.
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Member Since: 8/4/2012
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Originally posted by Sakamoto
well let me start first then;
I hate the fact that I got my dad's genes and was genetically doomed to have a smaller figure than most guys my age, and no matter how hard I try to bulk up and gain weight my efforts are null.
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It sucks when the wrong allele is dominant , yeah . I got the migraine gene from my mother and it's lots of fun as you can imagine . Sometimes my mum's migraine attack lasts for days so my future seems to look bright too .
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Originally posted by Gedamara
It sucks when the wrong allele is dominant , yeah . I got the migraine gene from my mother and it's lots of fun as you can imagine . Sometimes my mum's migraine attack lasts for days so my future seems to look bright too .
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Oh man that sound awful, hang in there.
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Member Since: 3/15/2013
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In mental/intelligence aspect I got the best out of my parents (I'm very lucky for this), but physically? Nuh uh. All my brothers have that flawless eyebrows, cheekbones, they got in shape easily and **** -- and here I am a walking panda
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I still regret that I just cut off this good friend of mine 5 months ago. We still see each other at work everyday but we avoid each other. I kinda missed him but I can't undo things now. Oh well
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Member Since: 6/23/2010
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Originally posted by wolfaire
In mental/intelligence aspect I got the best out of my parents (I'm very lucky for this), but physically? Nuh uh. All my brothers have that flawless eyebrows, cheekbones, they got in shape easily and **** -- and here I am a walking panda
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panda is cute
seriously I'm a sucker for cubs
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Originally posted by Hotshot
I still regret that I just cut off this good friend of mine 5 months ago. We still see each other at work everyday but we avoid each other. I kinda missed him but I can't undo things now. Oh well
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May I ask why did you do that ?
and don't give me that 'can't undo things" BS because if you prefer to keep your pride over regaining a friend then that's pretty awful, but it all depends on what was the reason you two broke it off.
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Member Since: 10/13/2011
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Originally posted by Sakamoto
well let me start first then;
I hate the fact that I got my dad's genes and was genetically doomed to have a smaller figure than most guys my age, and no matter how hard I try to bulk up and gain weight my efforts are null.
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Aye! I'm quite naturally a twig & my boyfriend is naturally more bulky than me & it irks me a bit
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Originally posted by Sakamoto
May I ask why did you do that ?
and don't give me that 'can't undo things" BS because if you prefer to keep your pride over regaining a friend then that's pretty awful, but it all depends on what was the reason you two broke it off.
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He just became a ****** friend and we've been fighting about the same things over and over again. It just became too difficult for me to remain in that kind of situation. We both got tired of each other. To be fair, he didn't even ask me why I suddenly stopped talking to him in person. So I assumed he wanted it too. It's probably better off this way, I just miss him sometimes
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Member Since: 5/2/2011
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Originally posted by Hotshot
He just became a ****** friend and we've been fighting about the same things over and over again. It just became too difficult for me to remain in that kind of situation. We both got tired of each other. To be fair, he didn't even ask me why I suddenly stopped talking to him in person. So I assumed he wanted it too. It's probably better off this way, I just miss him sometimes
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I am almost in the same situation as you. Some days I really miss my friend, but it's just too difficult to start talking to him again. I hope that he is doing well though.
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Originally posted by biomind101
I am almost in the same situation as you. Some days I really miss my friend, but it's just too difficult to start talking to him again. I hope that he is doing well though.
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aww, there there
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Member Since: 10/13/2011
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Originally posted by Hotshot
He just became a ****** friend and we've been fighting about the same things over and over again. It just became too difficult for me to remain in that kind of situation. We both got tired of each other. To be fair, he didn't even ask me why I suddenly stopped talking to him in person. So I assumed he wanted it too. It's probably better off this way, I just miss him sometimes
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I can relate to you. I fell out with my best friend of over 10+ years, like your situation, he became a ****** friend, we lost the spark we once had & just couldn't get it back.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Originally posted by Hotshot
He just became a ****** friend and we've been fighting about the same things over and over again. It just became too difficult for me to remain in that kind of situation. We both got tired of each other. To be fair, he didn't even ask me why I suddenly stopped talking to him in person. So I assumed he wanted it too. It's probably better off this way, I just miss him sometimes
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There's two things to take in consideration, so you can conclude why you miss him as a friend, 1) is it because you're a bit of a shy person and isn't quite socially open to have multiple friends hence why you miss having someone as friend? 2) was he a really close friend that even after all the fighting and bickering that you had no other friend managed to take his place after you two no longer spoke to each other.
after you realize what is the reason you'll either , have to decide that you should be more open and inviting and go and make new friends and that gap will be filled and you'll no longer miss him, or you'll just realize that he was too close of a friend to just let him go over stupid fights and you'll have to figure out a way to mend things between him and you.
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Originally posted by P!nk
I can relate to you. I fell out with my best friend of over 10+ years, like your situation, he became a ****** friend, we lost the spark we once had & just couldn't get it back.
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oh, that must be too hard. you've known each other for so long, i've been friends with that guy for only about a year . did you outgrow each other?
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Member Since: 5/2/2011
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Originally posted by Hotshot
oh, that must be too hard. you've known each other for so long, i've been friends with that guy for only about a year . did you outgrow each other?
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Wait... we are like twins I only knew my friend for about a year, but we became really close. Too bad it all fell apart in the end
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Member Since: 4/22/2012
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I think I ****ed up my math exam, and now my final mark is gonna decrease. I'm sobbing right now.
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Originally posted by Sakamoto
There's two things to take in consideration, so you can conclude why you miss him as a friend, 1) is it because you're a bit of a shy person and isn't quite socially open to have multiple friends hence why you miss having someone as friend? 2) was he a really close friend that even after all the fighting and bickering that you had no other friend managed to take his place after you two no longer spoke to each other.
after you realize what is the reason you'll either , have to decide that you should be more open and inviting and go and make new friends and that gap will be filled and you'll no longer miss him, or you'll just realize that he was too close of a friend to just let him go over stupid fights and you'll have to figure out a way to mend things between him and you.
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It's probably option 2. Since our fall off, I've met a lot of new friends, travel around and see new things. I don't believe that you could actually replace a friend (or a person in general) like I miss him as a person in particular (our jokes, conversations, etc.) not just having a friend around.
I'm very hesitant to mend things with him because he's leaving next month and we'll probably don't get to see each other easily after that. That's actually a reason why I thought it was okay to just avoid him since he'll be gone soon. While typing this, I just remembered how awful things were when it's bad between us. I am now in a more peaceful place, I wouldn't want to exchange for anything else. Maybe if we meet again in a few years in a different situation, we can be friends again but for now, I want to temporary close that door.
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Member Since: 8/17/2013
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Originally posted by P!nk
Aye! I'm quite naturally a twig & my boyfriend is naturally more bulky than me & it irks me a bit
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be grateful he accepts you the way you are.
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Originally posted by King B
I think I ****ed up my math exam, and now my final mark is gonna decrease. I'm sobbing right now.
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are you in high school though? don't worry, a single exam won't change your life unless it's SAT
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