BEFORE WE BEGIN:
I KNOW DAMN WELL YOU CAN'T CHOOSE TO BE STRAIGHT OR GAY
Now before you come in here screaming "No, I love dick too much" and "You haven't accepted yourself as a gay guy" PLEASE hear me out.
I'm talking about the disadvantages we as gay people have when it comes down to having a good stable relationship:
1. The biggest for sure is the social acceptance. Now I have always lived with the "I don't give a **** what anyone says or think" mentality, but that doesn't mean my significant other will as well. It is still very difficult to find someone who's COMPLETELY out of the closet and not afraid to actually BE PUBLIC: like kissing and holding hands in public (without people screaming ****** and in some cases attacking you) and meeting each other parents as ones significant other (You can accept yourself and tell yourself to not give a **** what people say, but when people disprove ESPECIALLY ones family it still hurts and can cause issues).
2. Bi-sexuals. I'm not talking for all bi-sexuals, but I've so far dated only (unintentional) bi-sexual guys and it seems they "need " both sexes to feel satisfied. Usually they need a woman for the social appearance, marriage and procreation and just a man as side line (this is mostly the case for closeted bi-sexuals). Most bi-sexuals I've met told me that they can't see themselves actually living with a man and adopting kids, but they rather marry a woman, get married, have kids and once in a while still dip into the guy swimming pool.
3. Procreation and Marriage. Yes you can get married in some states, have a surrogate and even adopt, but what about those who can't get married in the rest of the world? Those who can't afford a surrogate? Those where it's illegal for gay couples to adopt a kid? Those who simply just want to reproduce the "natural" way? Someone said to me as a counterargument that a lot of straight couples can't conceive kids as well, but that's the case for a minority. We as a gay community are always going to be limited when it comes to conceiving kids.
4. Sexual preference. The entire bottom and top thing. You can meet the love of your live, but he isn't willing to bottom if you are a top and vise versa. This is a common problem in gay relationships. Actually it almost never goes into a relationship, because the first thing gays ask each other these days is "Are you top/bot?" and if you aren't what they want they lose interest.
Like besides the usual common issues straight couples have in relationships, I feel like we as gays have to deal with a lot more **** in our relationships. Like guys in general cheat and are assholes. A gay relationship just feels so much more work to me. I hope I'm making sense and not offending anyone.
Honestly thinking about it I would kinda choose to be straight just because of the entire process we all go through. The pain we all have suffered and are going to suffer. I feel like choosing straight would be much easier than being gay; individually as a person and as a couple.
So basically I have two questions for y'all:
- In some other dimension where there was a ability to choose to be straight or gay...
What would you choose?
- Is it harder being gay than straight as a individual and/or as a couple?
I would like to have a great and respectable discussion about this with all of you guys.