Maybe one or two individual acts, but the fact that it's so prevalent and persistent means there's a deeper layer that should be looked at. What is it about society and its representation of people that pushes the desirability of PoC to the bottom? That's the level where we address the racism.

The "preferences" (lolz) are just symptom of the bigger issue and there's not much you can do to force others to date outside their race. I'm not naive on that part.

Off topic but is a white person looking for BBC only a bad thing or not? Like whats everyones view around this.

If that's the only thing that gives black men romantic value to you, then it's pretty problematic.

Since it's mostly a trope. And BBC isn't all too common

All forms of articulating type is regressive. Most communication is laymen and generic. If someone says they're looking for a masc, tall gymngoer. I wouldn't assume it means that they can't possibly find attraction to other descriptions of people, but this is the narrow filter they've used to shortlist their ideal man. (likely knowing its not close to being 100% inclusive to all their potential matches). An example of this might be age limit on tinder. Mine is 29, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't go with a 32 yo if we clicked. I just use 29 to narrow down my search, since from experience 30+ yo are normally in a different stage of their life's and typically look aged beyond my preference.


Although from my experience strict visual descriptions are almost exclusive to Grindr. I've rarely ever seen anyone on tinder specify aesthetic requirements other than "must be fit/active/athletic" and "looking for similar". Grindr's lense is fetishized because it's all about sex. Daddys/Otters/Twinks are all fetishized terms.

The filtering by race is only an issue because racial politics is itself hugely present outside of dating & a sensitive matter & racism itself is of course responsible for the social climate in which people gain their "preferences" in.

To be clear I don't endorse anyone saying "No X, No Y, No Z", no am I saying that some peeple who say such things dont own racist views. But I don't think it's a racial crime to use race as a category to filter through 100s of potential sexual partners.

Its annoying as hell. Pple always assuming I have a BBC, when im just an average Joe.

The fetish in itself is no more an issue than loving big brown eyes, curly hair or a perky chest. It's racial profilling which is a problem. You might aswell assume I like watermelon aswell. Being objectified can always be annoying and it's outright bad when it's based on an assumed characteristics, which is what BBC is. Sometimes it's best people keep their fetishises to them selves. Go for who you fancy, but don't reduce them to body parts in the process unless they themselves are similar In their expression.

You reached out to 16 guys but listed 18

12 ignored me. Forgot to subtract from that number the 2 that replied.

screaming.

I think you ought to maybe read through the thread and try to understand what black people are talking about when it comes to issues like this. It goes beyond sex and I highly assume you are not a POC.

Better to try and educate yourself and than to post ignorant drivel for the sake of desperately getting a reaction.

Yeah because exposing racism = crying and pressed.

Not surprised you'd post something like this anyway. I'm guessing all the racist texts in the OP suddenly disappeared from your screen.

If i'm a POC or not has nothing to do with it

If someone not into you, pick yourself up and move on. "It goes beyond sex" I highly assume you're not gay and don't know what Grinder for. At the end of the day It is a preference, No matter how many times you post topics like this and talk about it, people aren't going to change their preferences about who they find attractive. It sucks but that's just how it goes.

So being horny excuse people accepting or agreeing with racist views/comments?

Good to know.

From this thread, I made the conclusion that the overwhelming majority of the gay community wants white men as their ideal partner. Poor me, where's the love for asians like me?

Right here baby. Check out my insta and if you're keen slide into my DMs.

Bitch, MOVE! He's mine!!!

If you're serious, I know a lot more rice queens than you would think

Well when you have people saying they wish Trump would deport black people back to Africa and that they hate black people its beyond just wanting to have sex. Please open your mind and educate yourself on these types of things, I sense you're trying to troll tho.

Too bad my mind is opened and i've educated myself not to be depressed over what some loser on Grinder has to say about POC and politics. It's obvious people on here are lossing sleep and depressed because they want this guys to find them attractive so they can hook up with them.